BigBubbs Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I know this might not be a helpful post but I keep hoping that my ex will rethink everything and decide to contact me. She always threatened to end the relationship and I would cave in a try to keep it going. The final time I just didn't have any fight left in me and thought that if she didn't see me backing down she might rethink things and talk to me constructively. She's said she is someone that always pushed people away when they got to close. She 40 years old and has 2 teenagers and has been in an abusive marriage and several bad relationships since. I feel she is just afraid. It's been almost a month now with NC except for a few texts regarding returning stuff. I really want her to come back and work through things but my hope is fading. Question is after a month are the chances pretty much gone that she'll contact? What are peoples experiences?
mimiminx Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I got dumped one month ago. NC for nearly 2 weeks. He initiated the contact and has continued to contact me in one form or another for the past 2 weeks. I am in the same place I was after he left. The weeks I didn't hear from him were the hardest, wasn't sure if I ever would again. When I did, it gave me some answers and I was able to gauge his emotions, etc. But now that it's been a month, nothing has changed. (meaning his heart) . Don't know if I'll hear from him again, probably will but I will ignore all attempts unless he is saying "I made a mistake, I'm so sorry, let's work this out." Don't see that happening. He's distancing himself but still hanging on to me. Don't get it. Good luck to you. I guess the best case scenario is that you will hear from her again so you can have better understanding and see where things are from there.
maria_patheticsoul Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 That happened to me also before i finally made a clossure.He dumped me though but i tried to analyze him over and over until i got tired.He was not sure of what he wanted in his life and that affected our relationship.So i finally gave him his space for good. Before i made the clossure he used to contact me after breaking up with me 3 times a month.We stay together during weekends but on weekdays he decides to break up and dont talk to me..after few days he will contact me again.The last time we were back together that was the time i ended it.I can relate with your feelings that's it hard to wait and it makes you crazy if he will ever contact you again knowing that you were not in a fight with him.It's very draining and makes you feel so low....i hated it.
fofiffs Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 just assume that she will not come back and try to move on with your life. She may call you or may not. But at this point just try to move on. I was in your shoes 6 months ago. I always thought that she would come back. Well here I am 6 months later and she never called me or even try to contact me in any way. The best advice I can give you is just move on with your life and assume she'll never come back. If she does, well the ball is in your court!!
NopeNah Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 To me..They're gone as soon as they say it's over and walk out the door. If they come back... You go from there but, keep in mind that they bounced before and most likely will again.
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