Females: What physical features on a guy are most important to you?

[Mr Fractal]

 

End of the day, what a woman want is a confident man.

 

 

True, but it's not the entire picture. I agree that Mr Stumpy is going way overboard with this stuff and there are plenty of women who won't pay any attention to what he believes to be of concern. But on the other hand many posts in this thread are too politically correct. I take with a good bit of salt what women type in these posts when they speak of preferences. Not that there aren't a few who can be almost completely honest, but for the most part these posts do not quite reflect the real world

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Let me tell you a story. I've seen plenty of examples but I'll just let this one story suffice. I use to work at a place that had an especially good looking guy working there. I've got looks but when he and I would go out partying he got all the attention from the chicks. Granted, that was just a party atmosphere so it didn't really completely indicate how things would be in a library or store, etc, where I suppose I would possibly receive at least some attention when he was around, but on the other hand there could be no doubt that women would turn their heads and stare no matter where he was. I was only around him at work and when we went clubbing. He often times would pick a chick up and have sex with her that night.

 

He could have picked up a chick every night if he had wanted to. Granted, he didn't just rely on his looks, though his looks got him into the game quickly. He knew just what to say and just how to act. All in all women time and time again could not resist him.

 

Anyway, there was a woman who worked where he and I did. She was aware of his BSing women so as to get them into bed and she told me one day that she could not stand him because she did not like "bull****ters". Now I know I shouldn't have done this, but one night when he and I had gone out to a club, after a couple of drinks I told him what she had said. I really just wanted to see what he thought about a chick calling him out of his BS. His immediate reaction caught me off guard though, as he took it as challenge to overcome her and told me to give him 2 weeks and he would get her in bed. Well guess what, I went by his place 3 days later as we were about to go out and shoot some pool and when he didn't answer the door I thought that maybe he was in the shower so I tried the door and it opened and I was about to call out to him when suddenly I noticed someone covered up on the couch except for part of their hair showing and I shut the door and left. I thought I recognised the hair what little I could see of it and pondered for a few seconds and then suddenly I realised it was her. I didn't realise instantly because I thought it would take him more time and I was more so thinking she wouldn't give in because she had been so adament about not liking BSers. Sort of stunned I left and went to the pool hall by myself. I had liked her enough to possibly consider askng her out (though I didn't have reason to think she was especially interested in me) but to me that had all gone out the window. I was definitely feeling a bit down and disappointed in her as I played pool by myself. The next day he told me that when he hooked up with her he had forgotten about me and him going to shoot pool. Then he said, "See, I told you I would get her.".

 

Fast forward a few years. I'm living in a different area of the country and have a gf and she one day makes the comment that she can't stand Bsers. So I look at her and tell her I once knew a guy that I bet she wouldn't have been able to resist. She tells me I'm wrong and then I emphasize that this guy had looks, knew how to be and knew what to say and that I never saw a chick who could resist him and when the down the earth chick who worked where we did couldn't, despite her hating of BSers, that was reason enough for me to realise women don't fully come to grips with this kind of stuff. I told her the story I just told you.

 

The problem with forums is that forums tend to be even more unrealistic than people in real life are about things. Something about forums causes many people to way up the ranking of relationship factors and way lower the rankings of 'superficial' atraction in regards to how much these things are in play in the dating game or simply turning heads. In real life though 'superficial' factors draw attention more than many people posting on forums want to believe they do and they open doors far more often and quickly than posters indicate they do. I'd love to have a camcorder and record many of these posters and I would bet dollars to doughnuts they would not be so above all the superficiality like they try to proclaim in postings.

Edited October 22, 2009 by Mr Fractal

[LexiB]

True, but it's not the entire picture. I agree that Mr Stumpy is going way overboard with this stuff and there are plenty of women who won't pay any attention to what he believes to be of concern. But on the other hand many posts in this thread are too politically correct. I take with a good bit of salt what women type in these posts when they speak of preferences. Not that there aren't a few who can be almost completely honest, but for the most part these posts do not quite reflect the real world

.

Let me tell you a story. I've seen plenty of examples but I'll just let this one story suffice. I use to work at a place that had an especially good looking guy working there. I've got looks but when he and I would go out partying he got all the attention from the chicks. Granted, that was just a party atmosphere so it didn't really completely indicate how things would be in a library or store, etc, where I suppose I would possibly receive at least some attention when he was around, but on the other hand there could be no doubt that women would turn their heads and stare no matter where he was. I was only around him at work and when we went clubbing. He often times would pick a chick up and have sex with her that night.

 

He could have picked up a chick every night if he had wanted to. Granted, he didn't just rely on his looks, though his looks got him into the game quickly. He knew just what to say and just how to act. All in all women time and time again could not resist him.

 

Anyway, there was a woman who worked where he and I did. She was aware of his BSing women so as to get them into bed and she told me one day that she could not stand him because she did not like "bull****ters". Now I know I shouldn't have done this, but one night when he and I had gone out to a club, after a couple of drinks I told him what she had said. I really just wanted to see what he thought about a chick calling him out of his BS. His immediate reaction caught me off guard though, as he took it as challenge to overcome her and told me to give him 2 weeks and he would get her in bed. Well guess what, I went by his place 3 days later as we were about to go out and shoot some pool and when he didn't answer the door I thought that maybe he was in the shower so I tried the door and it opened and I was about to call out to him when suddenly I noticed someone covered up on the couch except for part of their hair showing and I shut the door and left. I thought I recognised the hair what little I could see of it and pondered for a few seconds and then suddenly I realised it was her. I didn't realise instantly because I thought it would take him more time and I was more so thinking she wouldn't give in because she had been so adament about not liking BSers. Sort of stunned I left and went to the pool hall by myself. I had liked her enough to possibly consider askng her out (though I didn't have reason to think she was especially interested in me) but to me that had all gone out the window. I was definitely feeling a bit down and disappointed in her as I played pool by myself. The next day he told me that when he hooked up with her he had forgotten about me and him going to shoot pool. Then he said, "See, I told you I would get her.".

 

Fast forward a few years. I'm living in a different area of the country and have a gf and she one day makes the comment that she can't stand Bsers. So I look at her and tell her I once knew a guy that I bet she wouldn't have been able to resist. She tells me I'm wrong and then I emphasize that this guy had looks, knew how to be and knew what to say and that I never saw a chick who could resist him and when the down the earth chick who worked where we did couldn't, despite her hating of BSers, that was reason enough for me to realise women don't fully come to grips with this kind of stuff. I told her the story I just told you.

 

The problem with forums is that forums tend to be even more unrealistic than people in real life are about things. Something about forums causes many people to way up the ranking of relationship factors and way lower the rankings of 'superficial' atraction in regards to how much these things are in play in the dating game or simply turning heads. In real life though 'superficial' factors draw attention more than many people posting on forums want to believe they do and they open doors far more often and quickly than posters indicate they do. I'd love to have a camcorder and record many of these posters and I would bet dollars to doughnuts they would not be so above all the superficiality like they try to proclaim in postings.

 

I get what you're saying but why post that in this thread? This particular thread is alllllllll about the superficial so this is probably as "Honest" as ppl are gonna get...

[sumdude]

He could have picked up a chick every night if he had wanted to. Granted, he didn't just rely on his looks, though his looks got him into the game quickly. He knew just what to say and just how to act. All in all women time and time again could not resist him.

 

Of course he knew how to act. His entire life it was made easy for him by the luck of his genetics. It was never such a huge challenge because women presented themselves to him, he never had to really work that hard at it and rarely faced rejection and failure. It's like being seven feet tall and finding it easy to dunk basketballs.

 

Hey, some people are born into money, born tall, attractive, talented, were raised in families and environments where their self-esteem was nourished and education was the best.

 

Then there's most the rest of us.

 

I have a good friend and coworker. We share an office and work together on projects. We have pretty much the same knowledge and skills. We're pretty much interchangeable and hold the same position at work.

 

I'm 5' 10" and he's about 6' 3"

 

I have witnessed consistently that yes, he automatically gets a certain extra level of respect due to his height at work and otherwise. As we walk down the city streets I see women's eyes on him. He doesn't notice because it's always been that way. I've pointed it out to him and he doesn't quite believe me. He also has neck and back problems. I'm very broad chested and some women find that attractive. But of all physical attributes other than an attractive face height is the strongest attractor. Doesn't make you a shoe in by any means but it sure helps.

 

So he does have a 'leg up' on others due to his stature. Heck, nothing I can do about it. Just have to work a little harder to get to the same place. That's why you see things like the Napolean complex. Short men who work incredibly hard to get where they are.

 

Accept the reality of it and be okay with it. It's an advantage but not the end all be all.

[donnamaybe]

1: Teeth

2: Hair

3: Eyes

4: Bootayayayay!!!!!!!

[MissJoness]

Height is very important

[Mr Fractal]

Of course he knew how to act. His entire life it was made easy for him by the luck of his genetics. It was never such a huge challenge because women presented themselves to him, he never had to really work that hard at it and rarely faced rejection and failure. It's like being seven feet tall and finding it easy to dunk basketballs.

 

Hey, some people are born into money, born tall, attractive, talented, were raised in families and environments where their self-esteem was nourished and education was the best.

 

Then there's most the rest of us.

 

I have a good friend and coworker. We share an office and work together on projects. We have pretty much the same knowledge and skills. We're pretty much interchangeable and hold the same position at work.

 

I'm 5' 10" and he's about 6' 3"

 

I have witnessed consistently that yes, he automatically gets a certain extra level of respect due to his height at work and otherwise. As we walk down the city streets I see women's eyes on him. He doesn't notice because it's always been that way. I've pointed it out to him and he doesn't quite believe me. He also has neck and back problems. I'm very broad chested and some women find that attractive. But of all physical attributes other than an attractive face height is the strongest attractor. Doesn't make you a shoe in by any means but it sure helps.

 

So he does have a 'leg up' on others due to his stature. Heck, nothing I can do about it. Just have to work a little harder to get to the same place. That's why you see things like the Napolean complex. Short men who work incredibly hard to get where they are.

 

Accept the reality of it and be okay with it. It's an advantage but not the end all be all.

 

I'm 6' tall, more with shoes on. He was a couple of inches taller than me.

[Monster]

Muscle mass/ upper body muscle

- Height

- Eyes

- Eyebrows

- Hair

- Overall build

- Skin

- Overall facial features

- Cleanliness/ Hygiene

- Hands

- Private part

- Dress style

- Smile

- Teeth

 

Of the above qualities, cleanliness/hygiene (including nice, clean teeth) is an absolute requirement. None of the others are even on my list. I want a man who treats me well and who is kind, intelligent, health conscious, and honorable. That's it. Anything else is just a bonus.

[Awesome Username]

1. FACE (more important than all put together)

 

2. voice

 

3. build

 

4. hygiene

 

4. eyes/hair

 

5. height

 

6. feet

 

 

Dealbreaker if he's lazy and has no ambition.

 

 

BY THE WAY guys, some girls prefer tall men, some don't care as much. Personally I'm 5'3 and a lot of girls are short like me, so it wouldn't be a big deal to them. Either way, don't ask someone about their preference and then pick on them for it. Most girls like tall men, some don't care. Funny how many guys can say "I'm an ass man," but once a girl brings up height she's shallow!

 

Just sayin'.

[johan]

If I hear another woman say she doesn't dig guys with hunchbacks, I'm going to go off on someone. Talk about judgmental and shallow.

[Jersey Shortie]

Actually, I agree that voice is very important. It can totally ruin your attraction to someone. If a guy is hot with a whiney voice, it makes him unattractive.

[cognac]

Yeah really , me and Mr Stumpy are incredibly screwed. He's got weird looking hands, and I've got smallish hands and a short height

 

thankfully this whole height thing is mostly an anglophone country issue and the women from these countries are worthless trash anyway and not particularly interesting or stable. I hope one day the roles are reversed like they are in the rest of the world and women are held to the same exacting physical standards they hold us to.

 

Until then, just save some money and go live somewhere where people are not as stupid and where women are grateful for a guy whose nice enough not to beat them and pay their bills

[Trialbyfire]

Fertility is the most important physical trait in a man.

[cognac]

So a dude can stink, be a pathetic weakling, unfit, horrible teeth, ugly as hell, and tall, and he's still better than someone who is good looking, good hygene, fit, and a bit shorter than you/your height?

 

Yes.

 

The so-called "How did he get her?!" couples that people here claim are so common usually consist of a guy who is not just tall but exceptionally tall. If you're not atleast 5'9 everything you do to make your appearance better is in vain.

[Ariadne]

Or just choose the 5 or however many you find to be the most important and rate them.

 

- Private part

- Muscle mass/ upper body muscle

- Height

- Eyes

- Overall facial features