ConfusedAtHome Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Just wondering what the longest time between break-up and reconciliation was for you guys?
justletgo07 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Just wondering what the longest time between break-up and reconciliation was for you guys? Almost 1 year since the break-up, and still counting...
bella16 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Almost 2 months, and then he contacted me this week and wanted me back... told me he just needed time, and realized I'm the one. We are not back to together yet, I need to take my time since I was the one dumped. But we will be back together eventually.. He's been calling, texting and wanting to see me everyday. Funny thing is, I am going away for a girls weekend tonight... planned it during our breakup bc I was so upset and needed to get away. Funny how he finds out about it and wants me back right before I leave, probably so I don't do anything with anyone, which I wouldn't anyway...but Im just not stupid.
georgia girl Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 For us, it was three weeks of strict no contact on my part before I finally talked to him. It was another month or so before I committed to "dating" him. I'm still iffy and looking for signs that he'll bolt again, but I guess we're together. We shall see. No promises but we are going away this weeknd (only Sunday into Monday, though - I need girlfriend time on Saturday night!)
sinkerswim Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 well, he broke up with me in January...and I left his apartment on Feb 1st. and moved away back home to PA. It was heart-wrenching. He started coming around again at the end of March and he KNEW I was his soul mate forever in early April. Saw him in late May. So yeah..I am moving to go back in with him again and we are going to marry now! (next year)
mimiminx Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 sounds like 2-3 months is the magic number!
adamt Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Does seem that more male dumpers come back rather than female dumpers. I think with women, once they have made their mind up that is it. Men sometimes dont know what they have until it is gone
mimiminx Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Does seem that more male dumpers come back rather than female dumpers. I think with women, once they have made their mind up that is it. Men sometimes dont know what they have until it is gone I think you are right.. tell me WHY though? This seems to be a very common occurrance with men. My first boyfriend didn't realize what he had until I started to move on, THEN he came back, but it was too late. This one, I dunno! I have never broken up with someone unless I was completely sure of it and never regretted my decision. but then again I have only had 2 long term relationships and have been dumped both times. But I do know that if I broke up with someone it would be completely final.
marmaliade Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Yeah, you both right, woman THINK before doing the dumping, men just DO it , than think
adamt Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 I think you are right.. tell me WHY though? This seems to be a very common occurrance with men. My first boyfriend didn't realize what he had until I started to move on, THEN he came back, but it was too late. This one, I dunno! I have never broken up with someone unless I was completely sure of it and never regretted my decision. but then again I have only had 2 long term relationships and have been dumped both times. But I do know that if I broke up with someone it would be completely final. Not sure, its just something i notice on these forums. I also think a higher percentage of women do the dumping. All i can think is women are more emotionally attached to a relationship so want the personality to be right. When it starts going wrong they notice it quicker than men.if he is a good guy the woman may sit it out longer to see if things get better. then find it hard to break up.i think men are more attached to the physical side of things and blinkered and can put up with stuff on the personality side. a man might act on spur of moment, whereas a woman might have been thinking about it for a while possibly talking with close friends. So many times i read how the man didnt see the warning signs until it was too late. By then the women has emotionallky detached and ready to move. Thats what happened to me unfortunately. She kept things to herself and i missed the warning signs. maybe men mistake warning signs as nagging or maybe women arnt direct with what the real problem is and take it out on other things I would hope that i will get a 2nd chance at somepoint but the dust needs to settle and would need a fresh start. I'll rely on any 2nd chance happening by jsut bumping into each other. but in teh meantime i am busy with myself and looking to get on with life. At the moment she seems to be having a 2nd wind(she is 36) of just being single and no ties.
NopeNah Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 For me it was a little over 4 months then she came back. That lasted 1 month... I broke it off with her last night. It's not the same the second time around when the other person hasn't made an effort to change..wait..maybe that does make it the same?
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