She called me after I went NC!!!!

[Angelo_28]

Hello Everyone,

 

So, as time went by (those of you whom have read my story will understand) I went NC since last week. Today, she called me twice. She called back to back twice but I was sleeping (I work nights). When I saw that she called, but had no messages, I called back. I got her voice mail, but did not leave a message. When I hung up, I texted this to her, "Her, sorry I missed ur call...I was sleepin..." and left it at that. Now I'm waiting...I've been looking for a reason to show up at her door so she can face me...maybe she "opened the door" to that. She know better that to call me and not leave a message in past...she knows I worry and once she did that and I went over to her house that time, she was sick but didn't want to bother me at work. So I guess this being the only other time she hasn't left a message or responded back to my text message...I'm thinkin maybe she wants me to show up but doesn't want to ask me...what do you guys think I should do?

 

Thanks.

-Angelo

[carhill]

She dumped you. She knows where you live. She is ambulatory.

 

Anything else is a mindf*ck.

[GrayClouds]

Hello Everyone,

I went NC since last week.

 

I called back.

 

I texted this to her, "Her, sorry I missed ur call...I was sleepin..."

WHAT PART OF NC DONT YOU UNDERSTAND?

 

 

Now I'm waiting..

 

I'm thinkin

 

NOW TOUR BACK TO WHERE YOU WERE

 

Sorry man the only thing you should do is reread both of the following links:The No Contact Guide

So you want a second chance

[PinkToes]

Do nothing. More importantly, assume nothing. Your assumptions will drive you insane. Acting on them is even worse.

 

You're upset that her parents don't trust her to make her own decisions. How is that different from your assuming she wants something from you that she hasn't asked for?

 

Stay strong. And stay away.

[Beeotch]

I personally would leave it at that....

 

My ex called me as well a few weeks ago, I missed the call but called back not even 45 mins later and he did not pick up neither did he reuturn the call...*shrugs*....I am sort of glad he did that though as I had nothing to say and I think he punked out as well in that after I didn't answer he realized what he was doing so when I called back he was too scared to pick up or some such

 

In any event...I know I returned his call so whatever decisions he makes then on is on him. I however, would not keep calling him or show up at his door. But that's just me. I am done with the games.

[Angelo_28]

She called me back the next day we spoke about nothing related to us, it was just a friendly talk and I can hear it in here voice that she was holding back. I didn't offer to met up or talk about us and our break-up. We simply spoke about fun things and work and school...I know she misses me also...I ended the convo after 15 minutes and said I had to get ready for work. So told me have a nice day and that she'd call me after her break...she did I guess I'll just go with the flow, but at least the lines of communication are open again. I'll just have to play my cards right this time and not sound desperate...if she invites me for coffee, I'll go and take it from there. But one thing is for sure, I know she still loves me...she wouldn't of called if not. Time to take things slow now and rebuild...this could be the open door I was lookin for...

[PinkToes]

I understand that nothing any of us says can compete with what's in your head and what you're going to do next. And that's fine; it's your stuff, and you need to find your way through it.

 

But that said, please, please DO NOT ASSUME anything. Keep talking, if that helps you. But for your sake, do not read into anything. She may or may not still love you, but her calling you isn't enough reason to make that assumption.

 

If you can continue to talk to her without assuming she loves you and without causing yourself more pain, by all means keep the lines of communication open and see where this goes. But please don't assume she's on her way back. You don't know that.

[mimiminx]

I agree with Pink Toes... my dumper contacted me nearly 2 weeks NC after he left me. We talked for days about our relationship, other things, spent hours on the phone. He's been contacting me in some way or another for the past 2 weeks. We've been apart for over a month now. I agree, I felt the same way you do now when he initiated contact. Every time he did, I would feel hope. Like, oh the communication is increasing, this is very good. He is in another state right now, so meeting would be nearly impossible. I have had such a hard time being cool about just talking, he always initiates the contact (nearly every day now)whether its phone call, facebook, email, etc.

However, I've come to realize that just because they are contacting you doesn't mean they want to get back together. If they did, they would seriously come straight out and tell you. I know this because of other posts here. I haven't heard it, hoping I will but haven't yet. I think any other communication is irrelevant. If they want to be with you, they will, they won't say hi and make small talk, etc. My ex still loves me, thinks about me all the time, misses me, etc. He told me so. BUT.. for some reason we're not together. I don't get it. And to be honest, it's been really tiring trying to figure it out.

For me, I've decided to ignore all his attempts to contact me starting TODAY, if he even does anymore. The only time I will respond is if I hear those magic words.

I wish you luck.. if you can be ok with it than more power to you. I couldn't continue in the limbo. It's your choice but I just wanted to share my experience.

[Angelo_28]

If any of you read my last post...Remember this, it doesn't matter who makes contact first...this "game" of NC is what drives people insane...always wondering, always guessing...pick up the phone damit and SPEAK YOUR HEART! Let me ask you, what can you possibly loose?!? Your dignity, your pride...self-respect? All of this, you need to put aside and bare your heart to the one you love. Putting one's pride and dignity aside can have a powerful emotional trigger on the other person's heart...it shows them you're pure, and speaking from the very bottom of your heart...then, they will realize the greatest love they have ever known is standing in front of them...be patient, never give up...happiness is just around the corner, just give it time.

 

Thanks

Angelo