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I feel like an awful person. Why?!

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So I went up to our work tonight so I could talk to my boss. While I was there my ex wanted to talk. We had been talking quite often, all initiating on her part. Until her new boyfriend decided she COULD NOT talk to me. Whatsoever. So it kind of hurt when she told me that she couldn't talk to me anymore, even though she wanted to. But she couldn't.

 

Anyways, her step-mothers funeral is tomorrow and I am going. I was telling her how it hurt me that after us being together for 3 Years she wouldn't even talk to me. And that I was just going to stay out of her life, she responded, "That's not what I want at all". But I said I was going to anyways, starting in about 10 minutes, and that I was going to the funeral for her dad, not her. I didn't want that to sound hateful or mean. Because I still love her very much. But she started bawling right in front of everyone! So I wiped a couple of her tears away, and told her not to cry.

 

I said it hurts me too, but you kind of left me first. I was thinking the whole time, you're going to cry?! That is so not fair. But I didn't say it. Why do I feel like an awful person? I didn't want to hurt her. But she keeps causing me pain all the time. And she continues to tell me that she feels like **** and just hates herself and her life for leaving me.

 

Anybody have any ideas? I feel AWFUL. And I really don't think I should, I didn't want to hurt her, at all.

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Well, she broke up with me.

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You still feel responsible and she's having a particularly bad time, having to bury her step-mum.

 

She wanted out, so you're not responsible. She doesn't know what she wants any more and finds it easier to listen to what her new bf wants her to do. Again, you're not responsible.

 

If you hadn't kept in contact with her, you'd be able to see this more clearly, right now. You are doing the right thing by getting out of her life. If she wants to fck it up, it's her life to ruin.

 

Hard, but she made it that way.

 

Take care. x

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