mr heartbroken Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 its weird i want nothing but the best for her.. yet i want her to feel some of the pain i am in.. i love her so much and even though we are not together wish her health and happiness. but right now i want her to feel some of the pain i am feeling.... i think this is just a rant but not sure... i miss her.
Calamity Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 No, Mr. Heartbroken I don't think it's weird that you want her to feel as bad as you do.
icyness Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I think it's normal to feel that way. I know for a fact I love my ex (I hate referring o him as my ex, still feels so weird) but I know I love him more than anything and always wish nothing but good things for him. However, I do have these moments of pure anger that I just want something to happen to make him mad. I think I mentioned it in another thread, but I'd just want something to piss him off. Nothing to actually harm him..nothing like that at all, ever. But just for something to occur that may irritate him or what not. I also feel a lot of times if he is with someone else, that I'd want her to do to him what he did to me, so he'd finally know how it feels. At the end of the day, I ask myself if I really and truly want this or is it just the bitter side of me seeking some taste of revenge. I think it's a slight mixture of both sometimes. If we didn't care about them, I don't think we'd care either way for them to feel anything as far as we're concerned; we'd be indifferent. I think it shows the passion we have for them.
Broseph Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Mr Heartbroken, dont think your a bad guy at all. I feel the same way too I guess, Im hurt as hell, heck last night I woke up at 3 am and it was on my mind. I love her to death and always want her safe but I definetely want her to 'eat crow' and come to relize that she made a mistake.
PinkToes Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Not only is it perfectly normal to feel that way, I don't see anything wrong with assuming she is in a bit of pain. She lost a great guy, right??
EarthGirl Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I do not think it is abnormal or wrong to want her to feel a little pain. It would be wrong to try to cause it, but not wrong to want it, because i think that it is more about proof of reciprocation of your feelings, than it is about actually wanting her to feel pain. You love her so you don't REALLY want her to be in pain, but it is normal for you to want her to show some discomfort from missing you because it would mean she still has feelings for you. That is normal.
JMA707 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 its weird i want nothing but the best for her.. yet i want her to feel some of the pain i am in.. i love her so much and even though we are not together wish her health and happiness. but right now i want her to feel some of the pain i am feeling.... i think this is just a rant but not sure... i miss her. I know how you feel man...my girl and i have been broken up for only a month and shes already found this "new" guy. Sometimes i really do wish she could just live one day in my shoes so she can see how much s**t i deal with on a daily basis. i really do want the best for her, and i wish her nothing but happiness...but maybe if she knew what it feels like to have your heart ripped out and shattered to a million pieces, then maybe she would think twice about all this...
BackonTrack2 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 yes thats normal but don't act on them or else you might end up in jail. over time those feelings will go away but you will never forget.
Bobby2010 Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Yes. I sincerely want her to go through what she put me through, ten fold.
BW007 Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I am so pissed at her it is silly. I do not wish her well at all and I know that is bad karma and bitterness but the truth is I think she should go through at least this much pain. I bet she is oblivious to how much damage she did. I think it will come back to her at some point in life. Not nice sentiments and not very helpful really, but there it is.
Nedved Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I think its very normal to feel that way. i know i did. Our ex's might rebound into a new relationship or be delighted with their freedom but i think if you maintain NC especially as soon as they break up with you then no matter how cold they are it'l hit them eventually that your no longer in their life. It may not be as a hard as it was for us but don't worry they remember the good times to and thats when out of the blue you get a text or a call to see how you are. Concentrate on yourself and try not to think what how your ex is dealing with it.
Funky Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 It's totally normal to feel that way, I wanted the same thing and now I just couldn't care less about what she does with the rest of her life. I've been ignoring her and not talking with her (we live in the same house still) and she still gets mad at me so now I see her true colours. She's also been trying to put me down in front of the kiddo so I can't imagine when I'm not around. She'll wake up one day and hit a wall realising all the things she did and said that were not right. When that day comes I'll be living happilly in my new house. Like Nedved said, think about yourself, who cares about her, she's long gone, you've learned and will meet someone better.
caramel c Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Let's all assume that they are all in pain. THEY ARE ALL IN PAIN. Even if they met somebody else, even if they got a raise, even if they lost weight or won a trophy THEY DON'T HAVE US ANYMORE, and they are in pain over it.
Author mr heartbroken Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 thanks to everyone for the advice. I am thinking a lot these days and the sad thing is i havent started thinking about what i want. i really need to start doing this and maybe i will get there.
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