vinc Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Hello, New to these forums. Actually joined solely to get some opinions/perspectives on my situation. Please forgive me for writing such a lengthy essay. I was introduced to this girl through her cousin (who is my friend) about a year ago. It felt forced and awkward because her cousin was trying so hard to make us like one another. Needless to say, not much happened. However, we would say "hi" to each other whenever we ran into one another at parties, barbecues, etc. Flash forward to this summer, (the girl's cousin went back to her country and it seems like her cousin is the only one she hangs out with). So I decided to invite the girl to a concert given the fact that she mentioned that it was one of her fav. bands and to keep her company while her cousin was gone. It was awesome. We both enjoyed ourselves and took a romantic walk and talked for what seemed like hours. She wanted to take me out to a dinner and movie the following week to "pay me back" for the concert. The movie date was also good and we ended up having good conversation. I'm beginning to like this girl. It seems like we have a lot in common. I then ask her out two more times and each time she says she has stuff planned already. I jokingly ask her if I should schedule a month in advance? She then tells me that she won't have time to hang out with me due to school and work.I feel that she's avoiding me for some reason so I outright tell her that if she doesn't like me she should just go ahead and tell me. I wouldn't want to waste her time or mine. She replies with a one line text "I like you enough." Not wanting to sound clingy and desperate I tell her that I will leave it up to her to decide when we hang out again. I wish she didn't tack on that single word "enough" it has really lodged itself into my brain. Should I take what she says at face value? If she is busy I wouldn't want to be selfish and take her away from her studies or work. Should I try to initiate a date? How long should I wait?
zilverenvlinder Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Hi sweetie. Welcome to the forums. ;-) :hugs: The point is, it doesn't matter if this girl is some sort of genius scholar workaholic with three jobs and a full time school schedule...if she really likes you, she'll find time for you. I would just totally give up on her. It's good that you had a nice time but at least you won't waste any more time on her. Tuck that wonderful concert evening back in your files and think of it as just another night of youthful fun. If she calls you, great! But don't call her anymore. Put yourself out there. There are PLENTY of us ladies that would appreciate a nice, caring, guy that calls us and asks us out, someone we can have a good time with. You sound like that kind of guy! Don't give up and keep posting with your updates, we're all here to help and support each other! xoxo <3 z 1
BUENG1 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Hello, New to these forums. Actually joined solely to get some opinions/perspectives on my situation. Please forgive me for writing such a lengthy essay. I was introduced to this girl through her cousin (who is my friend) about a year ago. It felt forced and awkward because her cousin was trying so hard to make us like one another. Needless to say, not much happened. However, we would say "hi" to each other whenever we ran into one another at parties, barbecues, etc. Flash forward to this summer, (the girl's cousin went back to her country and it seems like her cousin is the only one she hangs out with). So I decided to invite the girl to a concert given the fact that she mentioned that it was one of her fav. bands and to keep her company while her cousin was gone. It was awesome. We both enjoyed ourselves and took a romantic walk and talked for what seemed like hours. She wanted to take me out to a dinner and movie the following week to "pay me back" for the concert. The movie date was also good and we ended up having good conversation. I'm beginning to like this girl. It seems like we have a lot in common. I then ask her out two more times and each time she says she has stuff planned already. I jokingly ask her if I should schedule a month in advance? She then tells me that she won't have time to hang out with me due to school and work.I feel that she's avoiding me for some reason so I outright tell her that if she doesn't like me she should just go ahead and tell me. I wouldn't want to waste her time or mine. She replies with a one line text "I like you enough." Not wanting to sound clingy and desperate I tell her that I will leave it up to her to decide when we hang out again. I wish she didn't tack on that single word "enough" it has really lodged itself into my brain. Should I take what she says at face value? If she is busy I wouldn't want to be selfish and take her away from her studies or work. Should I try to initiate a date? How long should I wait? She's blowing you off. I think you should move on.
dreamergrl Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 My thoughts: She took you out the following time because she wanted to even up the score enough so she didn't feel like she led you on.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Wow. She likes you "enough." That would bug me, too! I would have asked, "Enough for what?"
D-Lish Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I wouldn't wait. The comment alone is a big blow off, but combined with the "I'm busy until x-mas" is a sure sign she isn't interested.
JustLooking123 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Yeah, I'd leave this one alone. If she decides she wants you "enough" to call you, she will. Sorry, man.
Author vinc Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 Hi all, Wow, I see a major consensus here. We actually did go out on several dates actually. And there were little things she did that led me to believe that she really likes me. I just omitted these parts to streamline my narrative for you all. But I could also be fooling myself into thinking I saw something when, in fact, there wasn't. Regardless, I won't put my life on hold for her. Thanks for all the responses!
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