conehead Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 For me and my ex, we went strict NC the very MOMENT we broke up, which was 12 days ago. It was hard at first, but getting better with time . Anyone else went strict NC (neither the dumper nor the dumpee had contact) the moment after the breakup? If so, how long did it last before either you or your ex gave in? And also, what happened, if anything?
Thaddeus Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 When I found out that I was being cheated on, I confronted her with the evidence, got her to admit it and went full-blast NC right away. She called a number of times (left messages on my voicemail) and sent a few emails all teary and pleading and all the rest... made no difference. I didn't want or need a liar in my life. She gave up after about, oh, 3 weeks or so. Haven't heard from her since.
Author conehead Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 Aside from Thaddeus, no one else?
tigressA Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 When I broke up with my ex almost a month ago I went full-tilt NC. I deleted his and his parents' numbers from my cell phone; I deleted their e-mail addresses. I haven't deleted/blocked him from Facebook; I was planning on it but then realized that it wasn't necessary. I don't stalk him. There hasn't been any attempt at contact on either side since. It's going really well.
caramel c Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 My breakup went 1 month before he (the dumper) called me. After that call, he texted me a couple times during the next month, and I responded to just one of them telling him "if you have intentions of getting me back, we can talk about that, but otherwise please don't contact me at all' and then he wrote back once and that's it. It's been over 2 months since the breakup and its been over 2 weeks since that last text.
PinkToes Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Yup, I went NC the moment it ended, and didn't hear from him until I sent a happy birthday text 7 months later. It's been a year now, and we're in contact off & on.
Beeotch Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 No can't say that occurred. Although if I ever break up again....I will do just that (depending on the circumstances ofcourse, but if it is painful...you bet).
grizzlyvw Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 if NC means non-communication than yes. I have been in a state of non communications for about 7 hours LOL.
mimiminx Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Nearly 2 weeks NC after the initial breakup. My dumper contacted me and HAS been in contact with me nearly daily now since then (2 weeks). He always (with the exception of once) has initiated the contact, whether phone calls, texts, emails, facebook messages, chat. The only things I got from the contact was hope and some answers, but confusion, uncertainty, and leaving things open from his end. I've gotten everything from I love yous, I think about you all the time, I want to touch you and make love to you, to please return the library books, "change your picture back to the other one" on Facebook. You name it, I've gotten it. All contact from him has been lots of little things that don't really amount to anything: I will say this after one month being apart: If he really wanted to get back together, he would tell me so.Not only tell me so, but DO SO. He hasn't. He's not AGAINST that idea, but so far nothing to prove that he does want to. After I didn't hear from him for the first week and a half, I was dreading that I may never get the answers. He finally did contact me and it helped me to talk to him, it really did. My worst fear was that i would never hear from him again.
robinincarolina Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Been there 5 of 6 weeks, lost count. After the first 30 days it just comes natural. It has been said it takes 21 days to break a habit.
Author conehead Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 Been there 5 of 6 weeks, lost count. After the first 30 days it just comes natural. It has been said it takes 21 days to break a habit. I like that last line. It's been 13 days for me, so just 8 more days to go
laRubiaBonita Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 the only contact he has made with me after the break up was about a year later- he mailed me my class ring that i guess i left at the house when i moved out.... and then another 6-9 months later he mailed me a coupon for cigarettes (i never knew if the latter was him being a smart-arse or what) that is it. i never contacted him... although we still have mutual friends, so i hear about him from time to time, and i am sure he hears about me. honestly, i hope he has a happy life and is successful. i harbor no ill feelings anymore- i am happy and in love with my husband, and i hope he finds the same joy. oh, it has been like 3 or 4 years since the break up.
gp913 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Went the first week with immediate no contact. Then exchanged some emails. Then nc another week, and then exchanged some emails. Going to have to start over now... My birthday is coming up. Wondering if she'll contact me somehow. I'll have to be strong.
t0ri Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 My ex and I went strict NC since the moment he dumped me over four months ago. He text me after three months of NC, and again a month after that...which was about two weeks ago.
Author conehead Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 My ex and I went strict NC since the moment he dumped me over four months ago. He text me after three months of NC, and again a month after that...which was about two weeks ago. Wow, you did an awesome job with the NC . Congrats and I hope I can do the same with my current breakup. So when he contacted you after 3 months, what did he say? Did you reply?
sunshinegirl Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 He admitted to cheating; I sent a scathing email a day later; it's been NC ever since - well over a year now.
adamt Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Yeah we went NC straight after breaking up. It was not something either of us said we would do, but we just did it. I had nothing more to say and i guess she was done. I needed to get my head straight and work out what went wrong and sort my life out. Only form of contact was a text a week after break up thanking me for a present for her birthday i got a few months earlier. I just replied briefly with no expectation of a reply. Then a week later we were both on msn and she never got intouch. so then i knew it was NC. then i blocked her on facebook. 3 months on and no contact still. its still very hard though.
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