Sorry for my englisch but need some

[James D]

My English is not very well... And I used a translator but her the story goes..

what if...

 

You did not see your girlfriend for 8 days because she went too a festival.

 

she's back from the festival, but very very tired with a heatstroke and don't feel right.

 

She no longer kissing and hugging you as much as before. And she not showing much interest as before.

 

She sleeps with you, telling you that she don't want too have sex with you cause she is thinking about her ex she met on the festival.

 

That its respect less if she would have sex with me now.

 

The same day I dump her on the telephone.

4 hours later I feel like made a mistake.

 

You tell her you were too impulsive and still love her.

And that she can think about it too come back.

 

After 2 days she asks you why you weren't on her School Distribution?

 

You tell her you forgot and will eat a ice scream with her too celibate

 

And that every thing's that's goes wrong will be better from now.

 

she tell you there's no need for it.

And that she would break up anyway if I did not.

 

The reason according to her is because

You never been there for her, when she needed you.

You never opens up and talks to her

and never talk about you're emotions.

And always if the relationship goes less you immediately want too break up.

 

She tell you she wants too stay friends and still think you're "Nice"

I tell her I don't want to be friends, cause I feel sexual attracted too her and I don't want too loss her as my girlfriend.

 

She tells you that you're weak and know now that you mean nothing too her as a friend. That a relationship is more than only sex and fun. not only lovers... but friends too.

 

That she felt you don't know how a relationship work.

And she has good contact with her ex again and that's her true love.

 

I wished her good luck with her ex boy friend and a nice life.

 

And I told her its kind of sad she blame me for all those things just too be with her ex again.

She told my that's not true

 

Than she tells me, that she thinks I am sad cause I cant be friends with her if I cant have sex with her. After that she blocks you on Messenger.

 

After 2 months no contact I hear from a friend she doesn't has a relationship with her ex boyfriend (probably my ex just was lying because she was mad I dumped her)

 

She was right with the following things:

 

Almost never opens up and talks to her

Did not been there for her when she needed me.

I did not talk much about my emotions

I Wanted too break up a few times when relationship goes less but I never did.

Did not show many times how much I loves her.

And I did not pay allot attention too her

 

I know I made allot of mistakes but I still love her and want her back... I had no contact for 2 months

 

How Too get her back If you told her you don't want contact with her any more?

[PinkToes]

James, I'm sorry to say there isn't much you can do now. It sounds like she was very honest with you about what she was unhappy about, and that's more than a lot of people ever learn from someone who is dumping them.

 

Try to work on the things she said she was unhappy about, for your sake, and so you will be better able to interact with the next girl you fall in love with.

 

She will contact you if she wants to see you again, I'm sure she knows how you feel.

 

I'm so sorry you are going through this, it is always sad to lose someone we love, even when the relationship wasn't going well. Take care of yourself right now, and try to keep busy with other things. You will get through this.

[mickleb]

Hi James.

 

Well done for persevering with the translation - you did well!

 

I can understand you feel like you should have tried harder with this girsl but she sounds pretty cold to me, from what you've said. Perhaps you sensed things were not quite right and hel back a bit?

 

She's clearly not over her ex and so, shouldn't have been dating you. It was not fair.

 

You made the right decision with your gut instinct. Write a list of all the problems you had with HER in the relationship and keep reading it, and adding to it. Your brain will, eventually, overrule your heart, and you will begin to heal. (Obviously, it's a bit more complicated than that but, when you finally accept it's over, your head will be able to start telling you it's ok.

 

She's talking cr*p, trying to make you feel guilty about not being her friend, btw. She still wanted support and fun with you, without having to owe you anything. I think it was really mean of her to try to suggest you weren't a friend when you were together.

 

She's got some problems to deal with. You are better off without her.

 

Take care. xx

[James D]

Yes you are right

 

she was talking allot about her ex from the start I met her.

She told me that they been best friends for 7 years and after that they been on a 7 months relationship.

 

Yesterday night I made a very big mistake after 2 months NC.

I texted her in the middle of the night:

 

Hello... I am thinking about you and about the past.

I miss you and wish things been different.

I hate it how things are between us now

She texted back:

Why you text this all out the sudden?

 

I texted with:

 

Thinking everyday about you, The moment I met you till now.

I was scared, because I care so much about you

Wish I could be with you..

She did not respond after that.

 

 

I want too know does my text messages sound very needy and desperate?

I know I made a mistake by send those text messages.

 

I know i am better of , but its so hard too control my emotions.

[PinkToes]

Yes, your words sounded a bit desperate, but try not to be too hard on yourself, we've all slipped up on the path toward healing. Making a list of everything you weren't happy about is an excellent idea, and you can even put it up on the wall as a constant reminder.

 

What you're feeling is completely normal, and it will get easier. I've sent a few ill-advised texts myself, usually in the middle of the night, so I even locked my cell in my car trunk overnight. It kept me from giving in to my urge to contact him while I was still half asleep.

[James D]

I made a **** list about her.

 

1. Talks 30% about her ex

2. Didn't want sex anymore, cause she was thinking about her ex.

3. She was gone for 5 days without calling or smsing me,

4.Insulted my allot when she did not get what she wants.

5.If I couldn't meet her on days she wanted too see me, she was going out and getting drunk.

6.Told me allot how sexy all those famous guitarists are

7.Told me she is so happy she is back with her true love (her ex)

Thats she think I am so sad and after that removed me from her messenger.

8. Times I been on the army, many guys been in her home, and one of them even did sleep in her room. (later I heard it was her ex)

9.2 months ago she Sended me 2 text messages out of the sudden :

 

She: You are like a micowave you cum in 30 seconds

 

Me:Thanks for the nice times whe had, but I dont want any contact with you anymore. Have a nice life.

 

She Thats a little sad... and that not the only little thing you have (she meent mine cock)

 

10. I think those 9 are more than enough

[mickleb]

James - she sounds horrible. Please try not to waste any more time on her. There are plenty of nicer girls out there who you will meet. x