Ilovecake Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT]I'm so nervous. I'm going to a concert with a friend on Saturday in a very small club. I know the ex will be there and most likely with the new girlfriend, who I'm pretty sure he was cheating on me with right before “the breakup”. I've never seen her before, all I know is she's 16 years younger than me. There is no way I’m going to say a word to him and I know there is no way he will approach me but just the fact that I will see him in the same room as me is making me extremely anxious. How do I get over those jitters? Besides making myself look scrumptious and irresistible, which I'm planning on doing.
mickleb Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Know that he's a tw*t? Sorry. I don't mean to be flippant but you have dignity, pride, integrity. Without these things, he has NOTHING. Write an angry letter to him. Keep it in your pocket. Read it before you go out, before you get to the club and every time you need to remember who he really is. I take it you're going with friends? x
silic0ntoad Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT]I'm so nervous. I'm going to a concert with a friend on Saturday in a very small club. I know the ex will be there and most likely with the new girlfriend, who I'm pretty sure he was cheating on me with right before “the breakup”. I've never seen her before, all I know is she's 16 years younger than me. There is no way I’m going to say a word to him and I know there is no way he will approach me but just the fact that I will see him in the same room as me is making me extremely anxious. How do I get over those jitters? Besides making myself look scrumptious and irresistible, which I'm planning on doing. Well, you can bring me, as arm candy. I am pretty big (6'2'' 200 lbs) and intimidating. And, of course, I'll pamper you all evening to make him jealous. Then we can crack the hell up about it afterwards!
Author Ilovecake Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 Know that he's a tw*t? Sorry. I don't mean to be flippant but you have dignity, pride, integrity. Without these things, he has NOTHING. Write an angry letter to him. Keep it in your pocket. Read it before you go out, before you get to the club and every time you need to remember who he really is. I take it you're going with friends? x I already think that about him, and more, that's why I don't get why I'm so nervous. Knowing him he'll feel 10 times more uncomfortable than me because he's a coward and he knows I’m not above kicking him where the sun don’t shine if he tries to approach me. I'm going with a friend, a girl. I was actually going to go alone but thank goodness she wanted to go with me.
Author Ilovecake Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 Well, you can bring me, as arm candy. I am pretty big (6'2'' 200 lbs) and intimidating. And, of course, I'll pamper you all evening to make him jealous. Then we can crack the hell up about it afterwards! Thank you for the generous offer. If you feel like taking a ride out to Chicago you're more than welcome to come with me.
silic0ntoad Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Thank you for the generous offer. If you feel like taking a ride out to Chicago you're more than welcome to come with me. Haha! I might take you up on that. Sh*t I got nothing to do, and my office is moving out there. I could scope out the territory! Haha
Author Ilovecake Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 I must say that wasn't too bad. Saw the ex and his new girlfriend (poor girl). First let me say that it's the same girl I was accusing him of cheating on me with that he denied vehemently doing so. My friend and I walked into the club and there he was standing there with the new girl and our old mutual friend. I saw him just out of the corner of my eye and could tell by the body shape and stance that it was him. I didn’t make eye contact just walked by and went to the bar (in the next room) to get a drink. His girlfriend kept coming over by where we were standing to buy him his beers and to “check me out”. I went outside for a cigarette and there she was 5 minutes later, right behind me. She did some snickering with her buddy and moved on. The place was crowded enough where I could completely avoid seeing the ex all night, which was great. I had a fun time, danced my rump off talked to some people etc etc. She looked miserable the whole night. Definitely not her scene and you could tell she was there only because he was there. Now may I be catty for a minute? She was wearing the most horrendous outfit in the club. Mind you this is a rock club where most girls wear jeans, tshirts and tattoos, including me. There is no mistaking it; I’m definitely a rock girl. I don’t wear high heals or dresses or a bunch of makeup when I go to shows, I’m fairly casual all the time. I’m 5’10 she looked to be about 5’2, I’m 38 years old, she’s 23 but looks 16. She was the complete opposite of me. I always made fun of my ex for being attracted to girls that look like they’ve been stuck in 1983 all their lives and would always ask him how in the world he ever ended up with someone like me. Even though his new girlfriend wasn’t even born then she was wearing the bad 80s uniform, which I’m sure he picked out for her. She had a really tight, electric blue, tube top, mini dress on (could have been a shirt with no pants) with black flat scrunch boots that were way too big on her. I could just hear him telling her how good her boobs looked in that dress or something just as disgusting. In reality she looked like she was trying to be one of the Housewives of Orange County mixed with an 80s hair metal girl. Really just looked like a lost child trying to look sexy. I feel so great that I acted super cool the whole night, like I didn’t have a bother in the world. Knowing that she’s nobody intimidating and actually looks quite unhappy already made me feel so much more comfortable about the run in. I was so nervous the whole day that I would feel panicked when I saw their great new love that I didn’t eat a thing all day. The minute I saw them I realized I’m really getting over him, even though I feel a lot of residual anger, there is no love left and I’m definitely not jealous of her which I was afraid I might be, I just feel sympathy towards her.
0hpenelope Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 I feel a lot of residual anger, there is no love left Ain't that an awesome feeling? Hoping to see you on the other side of the fence (the "staying strong & moving on" side) very soon, which is what I also wish for everyone on the forums.
broken_promises Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Oh, I really hope the same good experience comes my way! I fear the same possibility at a concert I am going to next week with a friend. It is a bigger venue, so hopefully I'll be okay and won't have to see him or the new girl (also the person he was wooing before we even broke up) because I don't know that I'll be able to keep my cool like you did. (I already feel she is just a 100% better version of me.) Thanks for the posting of the outcome! Wish me luck!
Author Ilovecake Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 Oh, I really hope the same good experience comes my way! I fear the same possibility at a concert I am going to next week with a friend. It is a bigger venue, so hopefully I'll be okay and won't have to see him or the new girl (also the person he was wooing before we even broke up) because I don't know that I'll be able to keep my cool like you did. (I already feel she is just a 100% better version of me.) Thanks for the posting of the outcome! Wish me luck! I wish you the best of luck and lots of strength. I have a feeling it will also be a good experience for you. I think the hardest thing is getting over the initial hump. I was going to the concert with old memories of my ex. I was idealizing him and his new relationship but seeing him made me remember that he's not at all like the false memories I have stored in my head. Even if you feel uncomfortable act like you're having the best time of your life and wear a smirk on your face the entire evening, by the time you leave you'll feel like a queen just because you got through it.
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