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People who have 500/1000+ freinds do they really know them

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you know some people on facebook, have like 500 or 1000 more freinds on their profiles.. but do they really know them all? is it more likely that they add them, to make it look as if they got more freinds?

 

I only add people to my profile, who I actually talk to, and who I know in person

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I only add people I know as well. However I know a lady right now who has about 700 and some friends on her FB, do I believe she knows that many? No I don't. I've known her pretty much all my life. I do see where it looks as if she is adding people she has heard of, from back in the day at school or from a job. Kind of like I know you because I've seen you, but I don't really know you. Also its kind of like adding people because she knows the same friends they do, but she doesn't really know them. :laugh:

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I only add people I know as well. However I know a lady right now who has about 700 and some friends on her FB, do I believe she knows that many? No I don't. I've known her pretty much all my life. I do see where it looks as if she is adding people she has heard of, from back in the day at school or from a job. Kind of like I know you because I've seen you, but I don't really know you. Also its kind of like adding people because she knows the same friends they do, but she doesn't really know them. :laugh:

 

:laugh: Yeah I know a couple of people like that aswell.. Its even worse when they try and add, then you ask how they are and they completely ignore the message.. I end up deleting them, cause some are only interested in how many people they add to their list

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I have about 400+ friends and they are people I know from my primary & secondary school, college, university and throughout my career life. Some are my siblings' friends, relatives and these are people I meet pretty often.

 

Some are friends I've made through online community (blogs, forums) and also, sports clubs. Facebook is just one of the ways for us to communicate if we couldn't meet in person.

 

I don't add people randomly though. I have been requested to add a few but I would ignore them, unless I know them from my past.

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I have about 400+ friends and they are people I know from my primary & secondary school, college, university and throughout my career life. Some are my siblings' friends, relatives and these are people I meet pretty often.

 

Some are friends I've made through online community (blogs, forums) and also, sports clubs. Facebook is just one of the ways for us to communicate if we couldn't meet in person.

 

I don't add people randomly though. I have been requested to add a few but I would ignore them, unless I know them from my past.

 

cool.. do you find that you talk to all of them 400+ people?

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cool.. do you find that you talk to all of them 400+ people?

 

Not as often as I would like to. Depends on which group, we would have events and gatherings now and then.

 

Some of my friends have migrated elsewhere and some are from overseas, so we keep in touch through FB and chat on YM or MSN every other day/week.

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A good indicator of which are friends are which have had you over for dinner at their home or eaten dinner at yours. I have a lot of acquaintances and business colleagues but very few (maybe under 20) people whom I break bread with and see on a regular basis. These are people who would invite me to a wedding or advise me of a death or significant illness in their family. You know, friends :)

 

FB and MS 'friends', to me, are mostly acquaintances, with a few genuine friends mixed in for ease of contact.

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If I cut down my total number of Facebook friends to the people I actually keep in touch with, it would be less than 30. Right now I have 135; most of them are acquaintances or people I used to be really close to but am not anymore.

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Many of the FB apps are games in which you have more power/money the more"partners" you have. People could delete after acceting a request or put them into a group that allows only limited access.

 

I've very much enjoyed catching up with a few people I haven't seen in years.

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ha ha. I just gave myself a little giggle. see when I saw just the beginning of the title, which is all that is shown on the first page ("People who have 500/1000+").....I thought it was gonna be people that have 500/1000+ past lovers or something! :rolleyes:

 

...this being the "love shack" and all...and I was thinking for a moment, JESUS, that is crazy, wow. No judgment, just wow. Then when I clicked on the thread and saw the actually title, I got the aforementioned giggles :)

 

For me I have facebook and myspace...on myspace I befriend pretty much anyone who asks me (I got kinda tired of inspecting every profile to see if they were worthy, so now I just say f*ck it, until I get so many friends that I may want to downsize) and I have a lot of friends I requested like favorite musicians and stuff just to stay on top of their new music, etc..., but for facebook I pretty much only approve friends I have actually known in real life, and it is a good way to keep track of old highschool friends or relatives I care about that currently live in another state and I don't get to see very often.

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you know some people on facebook, have like 500 or 1000 more freinds on their profiles.. but do they really know them all? is it more likely that they add them, to make it look as if they got more freinds?

 

It depends...

 

I'm friends with a girl who at last count, has 1,019 friends on Facebook. With that amount, I was worried that I was just another ego boost for her but as it turns out she's just a sociable person. Yet the other day, I bumped into her for the first time in 18 months in real life while lining up to get coffee at uni. She recognized me and we went on to catch up with each other over coffee. When we said goodbye, I saw her recognizing two other friends and walked with them because they were going her way.

 

On the other hand, there are those like my cousin (15 year old girl) who has a case of wanting to add friends for purely numerical purposes. On her list of friends are my close group of friends, our other cousins' close group of friends, and if they have them, our cousins' girlfriend/boyfriend. None of whom, might I add, she has met in real life.

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Right now, I have 203. Mostly family, friends, people I went to school with, some distance relatives, co-workers, etc. BUT yes, I do think for some people it IS all about how many friends they can get in their list, wheather they know them really or not.

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you know some people on facebook, have like 500 or 1000 more freinds on their profiles.. but do they really know them all? is it more likely that they add them, to make it look as if they got more freinds?

 

I only add people to my profile, who I actually talk to, and who I know in person

 

I only add people who I know in real life. I have close to 1000 friends. It's about networking. I used it to great effect when I graduated and was looking for a job.

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The ire seems to come from the term itself "Friends". It should really be "Contacts", and would draw less of an issue.

 

I mean, people who have 1000 plus contacts , most of these people are not "Friends". Maybe 10% are true friends whom you talk to more than 1 a year. The rest are usually friends of friends, someone you talked to a party for 5 minutes, or someone you worked with for 2 weeks, but really didn't like very much.

 

It's also replacing the entire "Give me your business card" or "What's your number?"

 

Conversations are now "You on facebook? yeah? Cool, I'll facebook you"

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The ire seems to come from the term itself "Friends". It should really be "Contacts", and would draw less of an issue.

 

I mean, people who have 1000 plus contacts , most of these people are not "Friends". Maybe 10% are true friends whom you talk to more than 1 a year. The rest are usually friends of friends, someone you talked to a party for 5 minutes, or someone you worked with for 2 weeks, but really didn't like very much.

 

It's also replacing the entire "Give me your business card" or "What's your number?"

 

Conversations are now "You on facebook? yeah? Cool, I'll facebook you"

 

 

that is true..

 

also have you noticed that sometimes you get people that you knew from either work or uni, and you were like freinds with them there, but then wen it comes to facebook, they completely ignore your accept request, but instead they add everybody else that you both would know from the same class?

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that is true..

 

also have you noticed that sometimes you get people that you knew from either work or uni, and you were like freinds with them there, but then wen it comes to facebook, they completely ignore your accept request, but instead they add everybody else that you both would know from the same class?

 

It's unfortunate, but it shows you just how much they value continued contact with you along that medium. If it is the case that Facebook is how you keep in touch with all your friends, then it might mean it's time to replace those friends with people who do want to stay in touch with you.

 

Northstar pretty much nailed it regarding "friends" vs. "contacts".

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90 percent of everything is filler, especially on Facebook. LOL

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I don't have Facebook. People on my Myspace are my friends and I have about 20ish or so. I haven't been on there for a long time too. Can't be bothered.

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I don't have Facebook. People on my Myspace are my friends and I have about 20ish or so. I haven't been on there for a long time too. Can't be bothered.

 

Fair do's.. I cancelled my account on myspace in early 2008..

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It's pretty unlikely that they know all of those people. Some, maybe, but "know" is stretching it. They are at best just acquaintances.

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It's pretty unlikely that they know all of those people. Some, maybe, but "know" is stretching it. They are at best just acquaintances.

 

true.. to be honest just thinking of real freinds.. I only chat and see about 3, that i feel that I am quite close with.. apart from that I dont see anyone else.. These 3 freinds that I see though, I have known them for a long time. One of the freinds I have known about 20 years, another one I have know for about 16 years, and another freind I have known for about 10 years

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