caramel c Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 It really depends on where you are with your date. Like, if you just finished dinner, or just left a movie, etc...still though, no matter what, as a guy, the girl needing to leave = not interested to me. That's a good point too. I wouldn't just cut it off abruptly. And if I really had plans after I would make sure that the date itself had plenty of time to end before the plans. Mostly I'm talking about a daytime date, because a night time one is just going to end & both go home. (well, for me at least lol) So if the same thing happened to me and the guy had to wrap it up to go do something, I wouldn't really be put off by it unless I felt rushed & also if I felt he wasn't into me during the date. If all other signs were good, this alone wouldn't bother me.
BCCA Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 That's a good point too. I wouldn't just cut it off abruptly. And if I really had plans after I would make sure that the date itself had plenty of time to end before the plans. Mostly I'm talking about a daytime date, because a night time one is just going to end & both go home. (well, for me at least lol) So if the same thing happened to me and the guy had to wrap it up to go do something, I wouldn't really be put off by it unless I felt rushed & also if I felt he wasn't into me during the date. If all other signs were good, this alone wouldn't bother me. Well, women have much better poker faces than we do. Its honestly a bit difficult to tell how the girl feels at the end of the night, where as guys are a little easier to read. So, we dont have much to go on, women can go out and have fun, but not be remotely interested in going out again, yet they will say they are. Guys tend to wear their feelings on their sleeve a bit more, and rarely say they want to go out again unless they actually do (although I know everyone is different). Im just saying if I was out for coffee and we had fun, I might see if she was up for lunch or dinner, but if the girl told me she was going to go do something that didnt sound time sensitive (as in, had to be done now), I would assume she was bailing for a reason. Women are very indirect, so these 'clues' are all we have to go on.
caramel c Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Well, women have much better poker faces than we do. Its honestly a bit difficult to tell how the girl feels at the end of the night, where as guys are a little easier to read. So, we dont have much to go on, women can go out and have fun, but not be remotely interested in going out again, yet they will say they are. Guys tend to wear their feelings on their sleeve a bit more, and rarely say they want to go out again unless they actually do (although I know everyone is different). Im just saying if I was out for coffee and we had fun, I might see if she was up for lunch or dinner, but if the girl told me she was going to go do something that didnt sound time sensitive (as in, had to be done now), I would assume she was bailing for a reason. Women are very indirect, so these 'clues' are all we have to go on. I see. Well, I guess everybody is different. Maybe girls are harder to read, I'm not sure. If you do have to leave early & are interested, it is best to make that obvious though (that you're interested).
BCCA Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 I see. Well, I guess everybody is different. Maybe girls are harder to read, I'm not sure. If you do have to leave early & are interested, it is best to make that obvious though (that you're interested). Bingo! There are ways to make it known youre interested. Saying you have to go water your plants isnt one of them
caramel c Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Bingo! There are ways to make it known youre interested. Saying you have to go water your plants isnt one of them lmao, no that is not an acceptable reason. Neither is washing my hair!
dreamergrl Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 What about washing my dog? Is that acceptable
Author bac Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 Thank you for all replies. I am still very confused about the rules of ending the first date from male's point of view. For example, we had a date at a coffee shop and then we went to the movie. I hope that it is a good plan from man's point of view. I personally dislike the plan because I would just go for coffee and that is enough stress for me. I would rather get to know him better on the second date. Finally, we are done with the movie. What shall I do next? Do I need to wait a man to end the date on his own? or Does a man wait for me to end a date? What should we say? How do we end the date to make sure that the man thinks that I am interested in him?
dreamergrl Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Thank you for all replies. I am still very confused about the rules of ending the first date from male's point of view. For example, we had a date at a coffee shop and then we went to the movie. I hope that it is a good plan from man's point of view. I personally dislike the plan because I would just go for coffee and that is enough stress for me. I would rather get to know him better on the second date. Finally, we are done with the movie. What shall I do next? Do I need to wait a man to end the date on his own? or Does a man wait for me to end a date? What should we say? How do we end the date to make sure that the man thinks that I am interested in him? Bac, dating shouldn't be full of stress. I think you're worrying way to much about this. Why not just go with the flow? It doesn't mean you got to screw his brains out, or even kiss him. Your body language should say enough. ALthough, if you get this worried while you are out, your body language is going to be all off.
callingyouuu Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Bac, dating shouldn't be full of stress. I think you're worrying way to much about this. Why not just go with the flow? It doesn't mean you got to screw his brains out, or even kiss him. Your body language should say enough. ALthough, if you get this worried while you are out, your body language is going to be all off. This is true. Worrying about how the date will end just causes it to end really suddenly and uncomfortably. If you need to go, just follow the flow of conversation, wait for a lull or the end of a subject, and then escape. It just takes practice and steady engagement in the conversation.
Author bac Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 I knew one guy who told me that he had a conversation on the first date with a girl for 5 hrs. Then he never called her back for the second date. I makes no sense to me why a guy would spend several hrs talking with a girl who he has no chemistry with. He told me that he talked with her for hrs because it was just fun. I probably miss some chip in my brain because I do not get that. I have never heard anything fun from men on the first date. They are afraid of saying anything serious or humorous. Everything is just meaningless small talk. They are just boring because the information they give me either too safe or something like white lies.
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