Letters to Yourself

[DustySaltus]

Dear Dusty,

 

I was just wondering when you would try and attempt to get back to your old self. I'm getting really tired of you feeling sorry for yourself and trying to make everything your fault. It's not your fault, you are a good guy. You traveled half way across the world to be with someone. So, it didn't work out but at least you realize that you did give it all you got. You put everything on the line for this woman and it still wasn't enough. Dusty, when is it enough for you?

 

You've been in a long term relationship before albeit not engaged to that person. You were a mess then too, but nothing like what you've become in this latest fiasco. There was a time in between these two relationships where you were a single, happy dude. You were happy with your life and didn't need anyone else in it to make it anymore enjoyable. But somewhere down the line you lost that swagger and sense of self. You let someone hurt you repeatedly with things that they said because you thought you could change them. Well Dusty, the only person that changed was yourself. You thought you were superman, batman and dr. phil all rolled into one. You're not, your just Dusty and that should be good enough for anyone.

 

So stop feeling down on yourself and get back out there. It may take weeks or months or even years but you will find the one you are truly suppposed to be with. But don't look for them Dusty, you'll know when they are there. In the meantime enjoy the ride and lets get back to being the person who has gotten along fine in this world for the past 27 years or so.

 

Dusty

[JLT123]

Dear JLT,

 

You have been depressed and obsessing over this person for so long that you honestly don't know any other way to feel anymore.. when are you going to snap out of it? You have been in relationships before, and you brushed your shoulders off when they ended.. why can't you get that person back? You invited her into your life for three years, made her a part of your son's life, cooked countless dinners for her, woke up early to get her breakfast, your parents met her parents, she spent Christmas with your family in FLA, you dedicated yourself to this person on so many levels. You made some mistakes, and when you first broke up with her you were totally fine.. why is it so different now? Why have you put this person that treated you so poorly at the end on a pedestal? Why continue to chase someone that left you sitting in a jail cell, who abandoned you when you got a DUI.. something that can happen to anyone at anytime? Why continue to chase a person who, when money got tight for you, and you couldn't lavish her with gifts and expensive dinners as much, told you it worried her for the future as opposed to saying, "it'll be alright". You're a good person, with a good heart, and there are plenty of good looking, accountable women out there that would be lucky to have you in their life. Set your mind at ease, let go, and if it's meant to be then she'll come crawling back at some point. Be good to yourself, and stop taking all the blame. It takes two people to build and destroy a relationship. Breath in and breath out.. get back in the gym.. eat more than once a day.. and know that everything will come full circle on this, and you will have the closure you desperately need and want.

 

JLT

[silic0ntoad]

Dear Brian-

 

Well, we've come pretty far. Fought hard. My back may be weary from the burden I bear. When am I gonna' chump up and dig in my heels? I already did that.

 

It's sad, ain't it? I always seem to be in the crosshair. Therapy is helping a bit, but I digress. I know I won't be leaving anywhere with her at my side ever again. It's not ok how it went down. But I'm ok with the fact she's not coming back.

 

Anguish is realising what could have been but never was. It's as simple as that. The heart yearns not for memories. Those memories will fade in time. I have already erased memories of C. Now I gotta do it with T.

 

Life may be a dredge of shadow and pain, but I have to keep on. My heart may lie, but my conscience is clear; I walk away guilt free. I didn't bring this down, she did. I didn't destroy everything at a whim because I am afraid of marriage. No, I stood, still as a mountain against breakwaters.

 

I will be ok. For the hurt in my heart, I shine through adversity that encompasses life. I've waited long enough.

 

-Brian

[moo]

Dear Moo,

 

I've witnessed your crying fits time and time again, and I have to say, "what's going on here?" You cry about this man as if he loved you, as if he was a saint. This man did not love you. He only said he loved you. His actions proved otherwise. He was rude, disrespectful, inconsiderate and mean. He did not love you.

 

I'm glad that even though you are still having crying fits, you have changed so much. You are eating better, exercising, doing CHI and getting your body in shape so that you can do yoga. You are also sending out letters to sick children to brighten their day, writing your sponsored child and have been searching for volunteer opportunities to help those who are less fortunate than you. I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of what you are doing with your life.

 

Keeping NC is hard, but you can do it. You are doing it. You have to remember, love is work. The partner must SHOW he loves you, make you a priority, and be willing to work on the relationship. He did none of these things. He did not love you. Pay attention to his actions, not his words. He lowered your self-esteem and made you feel awful, awful, awful.

 

You have so much love to give. Give it to yourself. Give it to those who SHOW they want you. Don't give it to those who act like they don't care. Love yourself. Build yourself up. Don't date a man because you need one. Date a man because you want one.

 

You are a kind, decent, smart, loving, nuturing person. Only stay in relationships with men that appreciate and honor that. Leave relationships when men don't honor that.

 

Your ex is a ridiculous human being. He doesn't understand what a healthy relationship is. Be glad he is someone else's problem and that you got out without having to be dragged into his legal problems.

 

I love you,

 

Moo

[TaraMaiden]

Dear Taramaiden,

How does someone as perfect as you ever make it through the day?

 

Love

Taramaiden

 

You guys are brilliant!

 

if ever there is a way of picking yourselves up, this is a cool one!

 

Good thread, and I mean that most sincerely.

[playlislay]

Well done DustySaltus (Im sorry but the first time I saw your name I thought of 'Salty Balls'-just thought Id share that with you )

 

I REALLY like this lil post and I shall start thinking about a letter to myself asap.

 

I reckon this could take off like the 'post here instead of contacting your ex' post.

 

 

Thankwoo

[dianna]

Dear Dianna

 

Please stop crying. That's all im asking you.

 

With Love