Heartbroken09 Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 *Sigh* It has only been 7 days no contact now, but still i keep checking my phone waiting for him to text me, but only this morning am i thinking i dont think he ever will. How did people deal with this feeling im facing of knowing i might have spoke to him for the last time ever 7 days ago Was love of my life, we agreed no contact but then i stupidly text him the next day saying i hoped we could still be friends and he replied yeh maybe speak in a few weeks. So i dont know wether he is going to get back in contact first or because i argued no contact untill i wanted it, is he waiting for me (oh my hopes are still up ) He is moving this week so know he will be busy too and that might be a reason why no contact too, but he wont even tell me where his moved in my town I dont miss the relationship i miss my best friend, only one who knew everything about me etc, how long does this period of lonleyness last.
TaraMaiden Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 As long as you permit it to. Who broke up with whom? You need to go No Contact. Read my signature link, and go with it. Things pass much more quickly that way.
Author Heartbroken09 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 He broke up with me after it came clear he was cheating/getting too muddled up in his own lies Needed time to sort his head out, i guess i know deep down im better off without him cause of that reason but part of me still wants him to kind of need me, wether for friendship or emotional support i dont know, i need him in my life but dont want. he wants me in his (i think) but doesnt need Still doubting i will hear from him again but we will see as yeh i intend to keep no contact going. Thank you for the guide i will read now x
TaraMaiden Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 If you want someone because you think you 'need' them - then it's not a good place to be, nor a good reason to want them. If you think you can find what you need to make your life happy within the life of someone else, then you are handing over validation for yourself to someone else who (clearly) neither wants that responsibility, nor is very good at taking it. The only one who can bring and give you lasting happiness - is you. It's a great think to love someone, and have them love you - but 'neediness' really isn't a good basis for trying to keep things alive. You're worth more than that.
Carm Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 He broke up with me after it came clear he was cheating/getting too muddled up in his own lies Needed time to sort his head out, i guess i know deep down im better off without him cause of that reason but part of me still wants him to kind of need me, wether for friendship or emotional support i dont know, i need him in my life but dont want. he wants me in his (i think) but doesnt need Still doubting i will hear from him again but we will see as yeh i intend to keep no contact going. Thank you for the guide i will read now x Maybe you should reread this first sentence..."cheating/"...WOW that says it all. One day when you're head is clear you'll look back at this relationship or friendship and wonder why you weren't the one who broke up with him. Seriously!
Author Heartbroken09 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 Only the week before i was in floods of tears in his arms saying im going to end it - he came back mr perfect said all the right things, we went away a couple of days i thought we were going to start a fresh, obviously not. In anger i wish i would of dumped him rather than let him have that satisfaction. I know i shouldnt need him but guess ive just been used to his support over a hard year, became too much of a routine relying on him. My self love and esteem is at an all point low now It upsets me to think all the support ive given him too that he doesnt 'need' me anymore, i really wasnt expectin him to keep this nc up, hitting me slowly as a shock like the title says it will never be again not that a whole week now isnt saying he wont repear in however many months down the line, but wish he would now rather than then after all this pain and working through it slowly! Argh need to get him off my mind!
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