I dont know whether he is totally in love with me, or if he is is over me.

[jessicarabbit]

Okay so I am going to shorten this up as much as possible, but im not going to lie it’s not short and I need help.

 

I started hanging out with this guy I went to high school with about a year ago. We never really hung out in high school, but he is friends with 2 of my best friends and we started talking at a party one night. I thought he looked really good, and we had a really good conversation considering the fact that we had never spoke before. I was walking out to my car to go home and he came running out the door to my car to ask for my phone number, I gave it to him and we began talking. We were completely infatuated with each other, and would talk all the time.

 

A couple weeks later we all went to Palm Springs, and him and I ended up sleeping together. He couldn’t stop talking about how "hot" the sex was and how attracted he was to me, and he really wanted me to stay the night but I went back to my place instead. After that night we didn’t really talk as much and then a few weeks later we went to the gym together and he informed me that he was trying to work things out with his ex girlfriend. I didn't agree with that decision because his ex girlfriend cheated on him, and I just knew he deserved better than that.

 

We lost contact for about a month while he was back with his ex girlfriend, and then his friends threw a surprise party for his 21st birthday a few days before he left for military school. I had not seen him for awhile, and he looked really good. We started drinking and by the end of the night he had pulled me into the side yard and we were kissing and he couldn’t stop talking about how bad he wanted me...but we didn’t have sex. The next morning he called me at about 11 in the morning for no apparent reason, just to say hello, and to tell me that him and his ex broke up for good a couple weeks ago.

 

He left for New York a few days later because he goes to a military academy, which is basically like a prison school. He rarely gets to leave and he is there for 6 months at a time. We talked from time to time until one day I completely opened up to him and told him that I really liked him, and that I had liked him for a long time. And he said the feelings were mutual and that we were so happy we finally told each other how we felt.

 

Everything was going great, we were sending each other cute messages, and talking all the time and he was going to fly me to New York to visit him and it was going just fine, until one day he called and said that he thought we were moving too fast and that he just cant handle a long distance relationship. I was devastated...I was crying and he felt horrible. He told me he wanted to be serious with me, but he is going to be in New York until JAN 2011, then he has to be stationed for military duty. I understand that the distance is a problem, but I really care for this guy, and he has told me that he feels the same, but I’m starting to think that he just doesn’t want to hurt my feelings and that he is over it.

 

He says he wants to continue talking everyday, and build a relationship and when he is ready to date he will "let me know" But I am not just going to sit around and wait for this guy...I seriously have no idea what to do, I am a Leo and he is a Gemini, and for those who follow astrology that is an ideal match. We understand each other, and I can tolerate all his mood swings and the fact that he is in the military...but I am not sure if him and I are on the same page because he just never expresses his true feelings. This is driving me crazy because I can see myself falling in love with this guy and I dont want to loose him, and I am confused, and I dont know what to do... Please give me some advice!

[jessicarabbit]

can someone reply please!!

[carhill]

Next guy

 

That's french for don't waste your time with this one. BTW, did his on-again, off-gain ex tell you they were broken up? I thought not

[jessicarabbit]

Next guy

 

That's french for don't waste your time with this one. BTW, did his on-again, off-gain ex tell you they were broken up? I thought not

 

 

 

His ex didnt tell me they broke up, i dont even know her, he told me. You say next guy? Why though, please explain...

[carhill]

He's going back and forth, playing eenie, meenie, minee, moe with his pecker.

 

Ex didn't tell you = he could be lying. Watch his lips. Are they moving?

[SierraRose]

Sounds like he is back n forth between 2 women.

[jessicarabbit]

Sounds like he is back n forth between 2 women.

 

 

That is kinda something that was in the back of my mind too, its just so hard because he goes to a milatary acadamy, like he goes to school with 4,000 guys, there are no other girls for him!!! Im just so confused.

[Curious-One]

why would you even want to waste time on a guy that you cant see 6 months at a time. I say stay in touch with him and date other people. When he gets out of the academy, if you are single at the time start dating him again.