kimbop Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 I know this couple who dated for a few years and became engaged and thankfully broken up. Each had a secret the other did not know about that can be a deal breaker. I was sworn to secrecy but now it's a moot point since they no longer speak to each other and live in separate countries. Which is worse: The Guy or The Girl? The Girl - She had a history that she did not disclose to the Guy, and this all happened before she even met the Guy. She was very sexually promiscuous and was involved in orgies and threesomes and whatnot with lots of different men. She didn't actively keep it a secret but the questions never arose in which she had to disclose this fact. The Guy - He went to Vegas with his guy friends for a surprise birthday present given by the Girl while they were dating. While there, he met a girl and proceeded to sleep with her not just for one night but several nights. His guy friends, being the single dogs they were, encouraged him. It meant nothing to him because he loved the Girl and he wasn't even engaged to her at that point. I've asked this question to many women and men, and I'm surprised how their reactions differ along gender lines.
Citizen Erased Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Okay, I'll play. The guy, for cheating.
MeadowGlitter Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Okay, I'll play. The guy, for cheating. I agree with you, Citizen. At least the Girl did all that before they got together.
EsmerKiss7 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I agree with you, Citizen. At least the Girl did all that before they got together. I'd have to agree as well, she did all that before they were together/engaged, while he did it during, thats much worse. Unless, the girl was having unprotected sex and possibly carrying an STD of some sort than yea they'd both be wrong.
CarrieT Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Why is being in orgies a bad thing? Or, why does such a past need to be disclosed? That confuses me. DOES someone's past need to be disclosed? As others have said, the Guy cheated and it doesn't matter that they weren't engaged yet. Sheesh. He's the wrongdoer here.
Lizzie60 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Why is being in orgies a bad thing? Or, why does such a past need to be disclosed? That confuses me. DOES someone's past need to be disclosed? As others have said, the Guy cheated and it doesn't matter that they weren't engaged yet. Sheesh. He's the wrongdoer here. I totally agree with you.. our past belongs to us... it's no one else's business.. so.. unless she had HIV... she had no reason to disclose anything.. maybe the guy was just as promiscuous.. she just doesn't know that. Lesson learned to the girl.. do not give such a present to a bf.. especially with a bunch of boys (dogs).. to Vegas.. you know it's going to happen.. this is SIN city for a reason...
primed7 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Definitely the guy...he cheated on her, multiple times....
oldguy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Yes, the obvious answer is; the guy for cheating. The hypothetic question is this however; If the past is truly the past, and the two where not in a committed relationship, wouldn't the guys Vegas trip simply be part of his past? I'm simply asking.
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