mr heartbroken Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Hey, it's been six months. My ex gf split with me. I asked for NC about 10weeks ago. So about 4weeks ago she txt me. I blanked it. About 2weeks ago she phoned twice in one night. I blanked it. After spaeking to my friends and the people that i had to comfort me. They thought that i should speak to her so i did after a few days. She was on a family holiday and before we split i was ment to be there. We swapped a few txt. She then dropped the bombshell i AM missing something about you and i dont know what it is. she wanted to meet up. so i met up with. she wanted to try again and take things real slow. i seen her on the sunday and she went up north on the monday. she txt me to say that she was there and that she thought about me the full drive up (about 2 1/2 hours). I am thinking this was great, she txt monday during the day. then at night she phoned we talked about me moving up there. She told me that she still whare's my pj bottoms to bed. She had been dreaming about me.... blah blah things that ment a lot to me. she then txt me tuesday wednesday we agreed that i would go up and vist her on a week on saturday. she txt me on thursday and was really funny so i thought she is just in a mood and that she will be ok. no txt all weekend but i was ok with this. on monday she txt me asking about my weekend so i replied and she basicaly told me that i wasnt to go up and see her. so i told her that i was finding it hard just beibg a txt. she then said that she felt the same and she has just mist my comfort. she then said we need to stop txt and phone calls. she said that i should move on and that we would never make each other happy. loads of negative things. i miss her and she picked me up and just dropped me this time. i still love her and really miss her. she wants me to move on. then she said that i will always have a place in her heart!!! what does that mean.. how do i move on from the lady that i thought i was going to marry. the lady i thought would mother my children?? please help
Beeotch Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 I have learned there is no quick fix, no magic solution except time and providing yourself with a healthy mindset and support. I look at it as: God or the universe knows what you need and all things work together for good. All things won't be perfect, pain-free or easy but they come together how they should, the way they should, when they should for good. Making the best of a bad situation is key....as the more you look at it pessimistically or like your life is over, why you etc the harder it is and more painful. For me...believing all things work out how they should and all things happen for a reason and for good, has helped me. I am emerging on the other side and feeling GREAT! Months ago I was forlorn and upset...even weeks ago. Through time, NC and this mindset the clouds are moving away and the sun is shining. I feel like I shed the old skin of my ex...and I have gained understanding and taken A LOT of good from the situation and I am confident that my Mr.Right is out there and you have to go though some bad to get to the good..... I think you should view it in the same light. I thought I would have married my ex too...but you know what, now I don't even want to. I cringe at the thought actually...so trust me...give yourself that time and spin the situation positively and you will indeed find that it is not that bad and you will come out on the other side soon enough.
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