IceIceBaby Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 This guy and I are both in our mid 20's. We first met five years ago in a work related environment. Both had crushes on each other and hung out a bit, but it never really turned into anything. Then I started dating someone else, moved out of state, etc. We still kept in touch via IM and Facebook throughout the years. I recently broke up with my last boyfriend and when he found out he asked me out to dinner. So we went out to dinner, had a great time. Had a second "date", kissed and cuddled a bit. Nothing too serious, just really sweet and fun. He is a very honest person, generally an open book. So he was very honest about how excited he was about seeing me and his feelings toward me. He was such a gentleman and I enjoyed my time with him. We left our second on great terms, he texted me the entire next day saying really sweet things. We were then supposed to hang out again and he ended up having to cancel due to a family engagement. After that, things got weird. Our IM conversations seemed a little one sided. I was invited to his picnic this coming weekend and now he's saying he might go visit a friend out of state. So I decided to be blunt and asked when I would be seeing him again. His response was soon. To me, that's not a real answer and kind of says he doesn't want to see me. The whole situation is strange. He went from being super excited about me and us to seeming pretty indifferent. Am I reading into this too much? Perhaps its just miscommunication in our IMs/texts? Or is this guy just not feeling it anymore?
Hkizzle Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 and you didn't have sex with him? Maybe he's not feeling it anymore. But better he pulled back then what jerks do which is go for it anyway when they're not interested, just for the sex. I know this dating coach that actually calls the men for her female clients to find out why dates didn't work out, so that her clients can learn from their mistakes. Why don't you call and find out what went wrong in a no pressure manner?
Author IceIceBaby Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 No I didn't have sex with him. This literally happened like overnight...it's bizarre. We were so into each other and now this. And he's a genuinely nice guy. I would never have expected this of him.
Hkizzle Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 No I didn't have sex with him. This literally happened like overnight...it's bizarre. We were so into each other and now this. And he's a genuinely nice guy. I would never have expected this of him. Well losing interest in itself doesn't mean he's a jerk all of a sudden. I would be nice if he had said something, like I don't think we'll work out. Thing is, unless you find out why, it'lll bug you.
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