if you have experience with breaking up with your om and then getting back together,

[lovely12]

i am wanting to know how do you know that your om will never come back to you. What sort of link of time can you count on him never coming back. Is it a year, a month, 10 years? What is the length of time that you know he is never coming back to you. If you have reunited with your om before then maybe you can answer this question.

[Confused4Now]

i am wanting to know how do you know that your om will never come back to you. What sort of link of time can you count on him never coming back. Is it a year, a month, 10 years? What is the length of time that you know he is never coming back to you. If you have reunited with your om before then maybe you can answer this question.

 

Wow you poor thing....this is something just all depends on the person and the situation. For you the best thing is to focus on yourself. Get healthy I'm sorry for your pain. I remember being where you were at....

[delirious]

I can't tell you how long to wait. I can tell you with my MM, it has been one week, two weeks, five weeks and six weeks, but don't think I could wait six months. If you have contacted him after all that time and he still does not come back, I personally don't think I would wait. It seems breakups and make ups are common in affairs but everyone's situation is different of course.

[whatisgoingon]

With my XMM it was a month the first time, from there it went to only 2 weeks the time keeps getting shorter. Don't waste time sitting around waiting if he truly wants to be with you he will be. No excuses.

[stampdaddy]

I am assuming you are the MW? couple of hard/harsh questions coming from an OM that waited 5 fricken years...

 

1.) what kind of bullsh*t are you feeding him to keep him "waiting"?

 

2.) are you actively getting out of your marriage, therefore giving him something other than bullsh*t to wait for?

 

3.) or are you just wallowing in your own heartache, NOT even trying to work on your marriage, all while selfishly hoping he will wait for you, wasting days/weeks/months/years of HIS life while you just go on with yours???

 

NOW, my exMW is getting divorced and she can go pound sand! SHE CAN FU*KING WAIT

 

there, now I feel better...

[lovely12]

my om is a mm too.

[ladydesigner]

NOW, my exMW is getting divorced and she can go pound sand! SHE CAN FU*KING WAIT

 

Yeah I am going to feel the same way when xOM contacts me again or when his SO leaves him. They can suffer in silence as far as I'm concerned.