What do you do when it seems like every door is slamming in your face?

[Els]

Boy is it one of those days. For the past few months or so my guy and I have been literally jumping through hoops to try and manage to get some time together at the end of this year. Things have failed, we've succeeded in finding other ways, etc. But finally it comes down to this: my university will be randomly assigning me to a posting during the entire time that he can be here. There is a 50% chance that it might involve going somewhere else that he can't follow because the only reason he can spend 2 months in my place to begin with, is that he applied for HIS posting here.

 

We have considered and tried every possibility. The only option I'm left with is basically lying to my university. Writing to the Dean to request not to be sent away because of a health condition that my dad has. The condition is not fake but I will be severely exaggerating it.

 

I don't know what to do. I never wanted to do this; there really is no other choice. The university obviously will NOT listen to any pleas of 'I have to be here because my SO is coming and this will be the only chance I'll have to see him for a YEAR pleasepleaseplease'.

 

Sometimes, honestly, I feel like giving up. Sometimes I wonder if it's really worth all this, especially when I see couples around me who just HAPPEN to be in the same university course or to be neighbours. While I have to fight a fscking WAR to just see my guy once or twice a year.

 

I realize that on the flip side of the coin, it is so rare to have a partner that's willing to also fight a fscking war to just see ME once or twice a year.

 

But wars are so tiring. So very tiring...

[Katherineos123]

Oh Els. Im so sorry that this is all so difficult for you...

 

So his posting is going to be in your area, but just for two months? When was the last time you two saw each other?

 

Are you ever planning on relocating somewhere together permanently in the not too distant future?

 

Now, I would normally never condone fibbing, but if youre grappling with the little white lie about your father, you shouldnt. It isnt hurting anyone. In fact, It would grant two people some much needed happiness.

 

Im crossing my fingers for you!