pruh74 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 ? I think he is just looking for excuses to be mad at me so he feels better about what he is doing. Missy Truer words dear... I think that's what my husband is doing now. In addition to hardly ever being home, nothing is ever good enough when he is there so he then has a reason to not be there even more. I wish I could be in his head for 5 minutes. It would be a lot easier than having to keep up with the computer and cell phone records. *sigh*
Author missysv Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 Truer words dear... I wish I could be in his head for 5 minutes. It would be a lot easier than having to keep up with the computer and cell phone records. *sigh* SO TRUE!!!! I am getting irritated at Verizon because they are not updating the text messages every day. So now I can only look at what texts were sent 2 days ago. I want to see what he did YESTERDAY and maybe even today. That would be nice!
pruh74 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I'd much rather have AT&T. They update in real time and give you the numbers for outgoing AND incoming calls and texts. Mine just gives me the numbers he calls so he could text someone and say hey call me. I called our carrier yesterday and asked them to add the numbers he's texting to the bill detail so I'll know more in 5 days. Those are going to be 5 very long days. I wish that I had thought of adding the texts sooner. I guess I just didn't want to really know what I've been suspecting.
Author missysv Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 Verizon is pretty good...they have the incoming and outgoing numbers for texts and phone calls. I know what you mean about the long days waiting! Then I wonder if I really want to know after all. This whole situation really sucks and I can't believe that my so called LOVING husband is doing this. A few years ago I would have thought this would NEVER be possible in a million years. My friend told me that she used to fell sick because I talked about my husband so nicely and he was always so sweet. She said that she had never seen a couple so happy together until she met me. It's so shocking how quickly that can change. UGH Missy
pruh74 Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Well, I just went by the US Cellular office. Apparently they can print out past bills and since I finally added the text records to the bill, I could see all of the texts for the last 5 months. I thought I was going to be sick reading the records right there in the store. I know what you mean about not really wanting to know.
Author missysv Posted September 7, 2009 Author Posted September 7, 2009 Oh no! That doesn't sound like good news at all! I am wondering daily whether I actually want to know or not. Well, the OW's husband actually approved me to be his friend on facebook. I am waiting to see what happens with this. LOL I would really love for him to give me an opening like HOW DO I KNOW YOU? lol that would be real easy to go into the whole your wife is CLOSE friends with my husband. LOL My H has been really nice this weekend and its kinda freaking me out. I think its because he can't text his OW. She is in Vegas with her H. lol Well, I guess I will just kinda hang back and see how this week goes. lol
Author missysv Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 So here is the update after this weekend. My H was pretty nice to me up until yesterday afternoon. It was nice and kind of confusing at the same time. I woke up to a message this morning from OW saying how she went through our town yesterday and too bad we couldn't get together to meet. WHAT? Apparently she drove to Vegas and we are on the way there. She was hoping to meet me she said? So now I know why H was so nice to me all weekend. He didn't have his OW to talk to and text. GGGRRRR and no wonder he was mad yesterday afternoon. He couldn't "meet up" with her in person while she went through town. Gee, they are only friends right? I also installed a keylogger on the computer last night. Well I went on his facebook and e-mail this morning and boy was I surprised!!! Some of the stuff he has been writing about is CRAZY. He has also been "talking" to A LOT of women!!! I made an appt with our marriage counselor. He can't see us til next Friday but I am going to be ready for a confrontation when we go in. I am busy printing these e-mails and chat logs. I am going to save them til next week. Boy is my H going to be surprised in the marriage counselor's office. LOL Please help me keep my angry mouth shut this week and next until we get to the counselor. It's going to be so hard to look at him and not be angry. But I am going to show him a great 2 weeks so he will remember what he had when he loses it! Missy
pruh74 Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Aw, I'm so sorry you found out all that stuff. It's good to have proof so you know you're not crazy but sucks at the same time. I always hurt my situation by not being able to control my anger and confronting the wrong way or too soon. But seriously, would we even have to be freaking doing this if they'd just be honest???
Author missysv Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 I always hurt my situation by not being able to control my anger and confronting the wrong way or too soon. But seriously, would we even have to be freaking doing this if they'd just be honest??? Yea I seem to have a habit of confronting too soon also. i will give him this time to really HANG himself. Yea we totally wouldn't be doing this if they were honest with us! So stupid!!!!!!! I don't understand any of this and how my H seems so nonchalant about it. How can he look at me and not feel guilty?
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