pioneer Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Ok I started seeing a girl in February of this year, she was only 20, 10 years younger than me, after only 3 months she got pregnant, we’d be having a fair few fall outs, mainly me moaning that she wasn’t making much effort in the relationship and it annoyed me how she kept in touch with ex’s and gave out her number to “old mates” on face book. 3 weeks after we found out she was pregnant we had a fall out, and I said it was over, bluffing to see her reaction. I tried to get her to talk to me about things and us staying together but the more she said no the more I tried to pressurise her into seeing me, and asked for a good 2 months after for her to consider us staying together. It didn’t work. Now another 3 months on we never got back together. Iv been to all of the scans and we are on speaking terms, she says we should see each other regularly so its not difficult for us to get on when the baby arrives, but seeing her now isn’t really what I want, I feel she got pregnant on purpose and used the 1st opportunity to get rid of me. She’s never had a proper job and im almost sure she never wants one, she like to get up when she pleases and im sure this baby is a good way for her to get out of work, and I feel by be going round there and attempting to be friends really is giving her what she wants. I don’t want to fall out with her and I want to do whats best for my son when he arrives. She still lives with her mother and I don’t like the surroundings my son will have to grow up in, the house is full of animals, cats, dogs, a rat, rabbits, even a duck. Her mums drinks and smokes a lot and doesn’t work, she has a disabled sister also in the house but if I mention any of this she gets very defensive and bites my head off saying im slagging her family and home off. I don’t know what to do for the best, weather to carry on and pretend to be friends with her, or to just ignore her until he is born and go from there?
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