dianna Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 I am sad, emotional rollercoaster, tired of this s***, in withdrawl, crying my heart out ..you know the drill/Im in NC after he sent me a message last tuesday He is out of his mind, fights with his mom,wants to get away,he has no peace,he is listening to slow sad songs(i know this from a close friend)../He is stuborn and won't contact me because he already did that twice and I answered him after many houres I know from past fights that he back's off because he doesn't know what to do and he's afraid of my reaction. But since i've gone NC and blocked him and everything he's like losing his mind.( may I add that he is a stuborn scorpio male?) We are in the same college ..same class...we start on 1 octomber..im scared as hell but I truely believe that we will be back togheter.Don't ask me how I know that, I just know it . Facts 1.he deleted the pictures with us on myspace and BUT he kept some picture with us on hi5 even though his status is SINGLE 2.HI5 -he deleted some profile comments i gave him(the picture comments are still there) but only one remaind .." And I love her" <-- his comment 3.he closed his old blog, started a new one and he has me on his blogroll, he checked my blog 3-4 times a day until I decided I want to go password protected 4.he left me and im hanging on hope that's about it What should I do? Should I break the contact or wait for his majesty to send me a txt message? :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny:( i love this bounching thing)
Funky Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 scorpio, ouch those are hard... read up on his sign and you'll understand him a bit better... My advise, tell him that when he is ready to talk you would like to talk without it turning into a fight. Put all your cards on the table, tell him exactly how everything makes you feel. Maybe once he hears all that he will finally open up to you, worked for me but wasn't the reaction I wanted
Island Girl Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 If he broke up with you, then you shouldn't go chasing after him. At all. Ever. Quit checking his FB and trying to read changes as signs and status reports. Stop analyzing he actions and inaction to try to figure him out. There is only one thing you need to know and that is he was in a relationship with you and decided for whatever reason not to be anymore. Maybe he didn't appreciate you and he'll figure that out and come back. Maybe he found a basic incompatibility issue that he can't get past. Maybe he just wanted to be single at this stage in his life. The list is endless. What you need to be doing is taking care of yourself and realizing that if he couldn't appreciate who you are and think he better hold on because he never wants to let you go -- then he is an idiot and you will live your life and by doing so will meet the man who will see you as the priceless woman you are. That said - your ex MAY figure out he has been an idiot to let you go and want to try again. But don't wait around pining and hoping that to be the case. It is bad for you and your self esteem. You simply MUST take care of yourself and pamper your self worth right now. Get busy with friends. Get busy with hobbies. School will be starting soon and that brings even more possibilities. If someone ever says to you that they want to break up - take a break - etc. then you need to cut bait and decide to not look back. It is THEIR mistake that they do not appreciate someone like YOU being devoted to THEM and you move on. If they decide they made a mistake then you reevaluate when the time comes and they should show you how serious they are in ACTION before you even consider jumping back in. Relationships aren't see-saws. The people involved are either IN or they are OUT. And if they are OUT then no amount of trying, showing them how worthy you are, or anything else will change that. They have to make up their minds that they are going to stick it out and be there. In the end you want someone who you can depend on NOT to run away, break things off, get scared, or what have you. You want someone who is in it for the long haul. Do not settle for less than that.
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