BackonTrack2 Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 History: Ex & I Broke up, said hatefull/hurt words, in the end I was broken. She was cheating, I was obsessed. She attempted to push me around but eventually I man up and ended things. Went back Week later, she cussed me out. The end. Post-Breakup I drove by her house. Family makes contact's She states I do not know how to communicate, states it my fault, do not inform me as it will trigger me. It trigged me, I sent email bascially calling her whore. Two Weeks later at sister's graduation she calls family member, states I have been emailing/texting / harassing her (lie, I emailed her once to cuss her out) Brother takes phone, hangs up on Girl Cousin Call's back Girl. Girl State's she's in serious relationship. ---------- Post Breakup 2 I blocked girl on FaceBook. I get rid of all girl's belongings. I tell friends to delete pictures of us together. I put block on for about 9 months. -------- 9 months later, I unblock girl. Within 24 hours girl changes status from "Single" to "In a Relationship" I was taken a back by this, told myself to not check profile again. ------- Few months later, I check profile, I notice our mutrual friend count is off by ONE. I look at the friend list, I notice it was a girl whom I hit on few weeks prior and never called back. She defriended me. Two Days later, I check profile, I notice Mutual friend count is the same It turns out she added someone from my profile to her friend list. I thought this was ODD. I de-friended roughly 8 or 9 mutual friends. ------- 2 days later, EX add's new friends to profile, one was the bloke she left me for. The profile picture was him & her, she appeared to be smiling. I told myself to not check profile again. At the same time, that sighting gave me closure, I modified my privacy settings to treat her as the same as everyone else (can see pictures, wall updates, everything etc) I told myself "I can let go now" ------ I am carrying on life, everything is good, I am forgeting, I am moving on, its now 18 months NC. At the same time I am updating my profile, adding photo's making post(s) etc etc, I appear to be happy (Well I was, I did several out of state trips and posted photos) I check profile about 5 minutes ago, I noticed friend whom she left me for is NOT THERE anymore (appears she defriended him) I check dude's profile, his picture is changed, its the same picture but with my EX cut out from it. It is only the dude by himself. ----- Conclusion. I am trying to guess about my ex's life through a web site like facebook. I should't even care and I don't but I was curious and now I'm wondering. Eitherway its going away more and more each day :-)
irishsimon Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Conclusion. I am trying to guess about my ex's life through a web site like facebook. I should't even care and I don't but I was curious and now I'm wondering. Eitherway its going away more and more each day :-) I wonder how much you have actually moved on in your heart? Curiosity is one thing but you seem to giving this situation alot of your headspace. FB is evil anyway.. it brings out the voyeur in all of us and trips you up when you least expect it. I think its makes it harder to let go. If you think she is single.. what is your heart saying you want to do? Maybe you are just hoping she has split up with the guy as that makes you feel better about your break up. Its like some form of validation. Just thoughts. I reckon I'd be just the same. I deleted my ex from my friends straight away so I didn't put myself in this position. It may have seemed immature but it was for the best. Even so, I checked her pic and friends list for a while until I eventually blocked her and then deactivated my profile for total separation of our lives..for my own sanity. It's tough out there.
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