magic108 Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Ive been with this girl for maybe about 7 months. Over the summer she was too busy doing her own thing and never even wanted to talk. All we did was txt, eventually i told her its not working anymore. We both agreed and decided to stay friends. Over the summer I felt neglected, it seemed like she didnt even care, every time i want to talk to her about something she waould say sorry im too busy to talk. She did this for close to 2 months. I started to feel depressed after a while. She really hurt me when I asked her to talk, she told me i always want to talk when its incovnient. The problem is she never telles me anything and only does at the last minute. Now she wants to get back togehter but said shes stiil going to busy during school becuase of her club, which is only once a week, then she wants to volunteer. Shes making her self busy. And its just hurting me. No matter how much ill tell her she just tells me i dont know what to say. It feels like she blows me off. I thought breaking up with her would help, i ended up feeling worse, and now schools starting and i dont know what to say to her anymore.
BCCA Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 No matter how much ill tell her she just tells me i dont know what to say. It feels like she blows me off. Thats a pretty clear blow off, for sure. Heard that doozy myself a few times, unfortunately. Know what it means? 'I dont care what you think'. She is not interested in what you want from her. How old are you if you dont mind me asking?
Author magic108 Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 Thats a pretty clear blow off, for sure. Heard that doozy myself a few times, unfortunately. Know what it means? 'I dont care what you think'. She is not interested in what you want from her. How old are you if you dont mind me asking? I am 14, going to sophomore year in high school. I fell hurt, the last time I had seen her i didnt even want to talk to her. I didnt know what to tell her. Her friend was with her so i didnt want to say anything. The same friend who went with us on every "date" we had. She even brought her friend to the sadie hawkins dance, and she didnt even have a date as usual.
gavinus Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 She is keeping you on a string for her ego! Don't play the game anymore, go NC. There is nothing more attractive than the appearance of somebody getting on with their own life. Take back your power, put yourself out there and meet a girl who respects and appreciates you. She does not respect you and you only hurt yourself. DO yourself a favour, respect yourself and others will respect you, best wishes and good luck
Author magic108 Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 I dont even know what NC is. I dont think she would do that. Shes never had a boyfriend. When we broke up she was kinda shocked. The thing she forgot was she needs to put effort into it. Id give her a second chance. The only thing is she said shes going to be busy during the school year. Then again so am i. But im willing to sacrifice some of my time for her. Doesnt seem like she wants to. BTW i tried asking one of my friends on a date a few hours ago, she turned me down, im not surprised. She likes me as more of a friend.
moo Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 NC means that you have no contact with her , for example, you dont' call her, you don't email her, you don't snailmail her. I was in a relationship where someone had all these excuses and made VERY little time for me. It didn't matter how patient I was, he dumped me anyway after treating me that way for a YEAR. He kept leading me to believe things would get better. If she won't take out time for you, for whatever reason, it's time to leave the relationship. Sorry that you are hurting.
Author magic108 Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 I still contact her once and a while. Were still friends, I just wished she understood what her faults were. When i told her what i thought, she got pretty angry at me. I told her she always has excuses about everything. She just blew it off.
Author magic108 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 We kinda talked it out, we may or may not try again. She said shes going to be busy during the year. So i don't know. I might move on, i might now. I told her ill ask her when im ready and when i think shes ready.
adamt Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Let her go, she wont make time for you. I saw it with my ex where she was "too busy" and saw me less and less. If she was still into you she would make the time. It is only going to get worse.
Author magic108 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 One thing i found out. Her parents are making her busy. In october shes going on a cruise. Idk about school. Her mom is getting a surgery, so she has to take care of her. And apparently her parents wont let her date. So her parents dont see it fit to let her have time to go out. Im done with her.
GrayClouds Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Read both of these: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance?
Excellent Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Dude! You are 14. I know it's hard since you have feelings for her, but you are so young! At your age i had barely started to think about girls, it was more interesting to go out and bust my ass from falling off my skateboard or something. Don't worry, you have many years left to experience young love, try to push her back in your mind and move on. Socialize with friends, have fun.
gavinus Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 yeah man, learn from the experience so nobody can hurt you again, pain=change, you have heaps of life left and heaps of nice chicks to meet, you have your whole future ahead of you, be kind to yourself, take care
Author magic108 Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 Im okay now. Were going to be friends like before.
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