kyraj516 Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 texted my ex of 3yrs. we have spoken in three yrs...he'll call out the blue or text...and sometimes i may text every now and then saying hey. we broke up based on him cheating. anyway...we've hooked up (had sex a couple times) in btw the 3yrs we've been broken up...about 3 times to be exact....but it was just sex. so the relationship was slightly platonic...but i don't call him or text him often and he doesnt me...but anyway...i texted this bastard after not speaking for about 6 months and asked... "hey how are you?" he replied "good and u." i replied, "good just saying hello 2 u...just because." this son of a biaatch replies..."u must be bored?" (i'm laughing to myself like ...um what?) so i reply back..."lol. why 'cause i said hey to somebody i was tight with 4 a minute?" ...then he jokingly replies. shut up, what's good?"...then i replied after a few minutes... "all is well, just saying hey" ....this bastard replies "sleep"...so i replied..."boy whatever don't one word me like dat. but aight. be easy." ...then i thought never again will i respond to, nor text him...because he clearly is the type to think someone wants him by saying hello...simply because i'm his ex. guess after we had sex i shoulda been houndin' him in his head or wanting him. but that's all it was. your thoughts on this? (i am single now...far as i know he's with the chic i assumed he was cheating with (and is obviously cheating on now...we're five yrs apart in age...i'm now 29 he's 24 (met at 20 and 25)...the one he cheated with 11 yrs older than him...i know he was seeking a mommy figure...well now i know...it was fun and i was in love ...it lasted for about 9 months) ...that's just to give you the root of what it was...i know now he's getting taken care of...one time we hooked up he started spilling emotions like if things were different we could've worked...i was a lil' mushy by his words...but not immensely...it didnt make me want to be with him because he's not about doing much as far as i can see as a 24 yr old man. anyway...your thoughts. yes...i'm dating...but i havent been in a relationship (seriously) since him. sometimes i'm like damn...i need a new man...but i cannot settle...so i'm single and dating. i probably texted his a** because i was buzzed off these damn Mike's Hard coolers (24oz ea) . lol...anyway your thoughts please. ;-) thx loveshackers ;-)
gavinus Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 you need to delete his number and move on. Every time you have contact it stops you from moving on. Do yourself a favor get rid of his number, and forget about him. Everytime you contact him it makes him feel great!! Respect yourself and others will respect you, stay strong
Author kyraj516 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 Thank you so much for your feedback. I know that you're absolutely right. I'm done with it. Thanks again :-)
Beeotch Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 I'm slightly confused.... If you don't want/like him...why would you be upset about this? I am not attacking you but I seriously am trying to get it. I assume that if you make a thread about something it is something bothering you or important to you.... I don't think you are being honest with yourself. If you truly were just saying hey and don't care about him then his response would have rolled of your back. So could it be that you wanted him to be more warm to you, be more friendly, start a long convo, perhaps invite himself over, but he didn't and one-worded you so you are upset? It is okay to admit if you were upset/hurt because he didn't respond the way you wanted him to....that is precisely why I do not speak to some people. I had a guy, we weren't in a relationship but were FWB and eventually things fizzled out because he always seemed to be too busy when I wanted him but expected me to be around for him and when I did try to initiate conversation he made it seem like I was begging him for his time....so I eventually cut him off. But I was honest and had to admit that it did bother me....
Author kyraj516 Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 You're such a biaatch Beeotch. lol...but i feel you...you're right about that. I should be honest with myself...maybe deep down I wanted this guy to respond differently...and for what? it's over...and i do need to leave it alone 100% ...not even to remain "friends"...because i know it's not good for me at all...thanks for you POV and the straightforward feed back.
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