butcher's hook Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Gees you guys are tough! Some guys like bigger gals, or find something about them attractive enough to overlook whatever reservations they have about their looks. I think what he meant was most guys if given a choice don't go for really chubby women. That's a reality not a speculation. Very few guys actually prefer chubby women on paper BUT when a man falls in love with a woman he will see the whole of her not just if she is fit or not and is willing to overlook his "ideals" for the more profound connection. It's not until then that a man can truly overlook his "ideal" preferences. Really it makes sense what he is saying. Our ideals vs what actually ends up happening sometimes is totally unpredictable and selfactualizing.
Sam Spade Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Single ladies out there, ALL single ladies who are currently dating pay close attention to those words, they should stay ingrained in your heads especially if you are in the very early stages of dating. If this is supposedly how all men think/are then you should take an extra long time to get to know the guy and DO NOT sleep with a guy early on, this is how selective men are about sleeping with you. Feel special yet? Yeah? So what? What's the big secret really? Having sex and desiring to be in an actual relationship with a woman are usually quite disconnected things in the heads of most men . The former can exist perfectly fine without the latter (but not vice versa). Ideally, they reinforce each other.
BCCA Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Except then you said whatever reservations they might have about their looks, implying they don't really find them attractive. If they found them attractive, they wouldnt have any reservations about their weight, would they? Thats what I meant, and this... I think what he meant was most guys if given a choice don't go for really chubby women. That's a reality not a speculation. Very few guys actually prefer chubby women on paper BUT when a man falls in love with a woman he will see the whole of her not just if she is fit or not and is willing to overlook his "ideals" for the more profound connection. It's not until then that a man can truly overlook his "ideal" preferences. Really it makes sense what he is saying. Our ideals vs what actually ends up happening sometimes is totally unpredictable and selfactualizing. Yes, exactly.
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