rudeaims Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 What would you do if your man/woman denied you of sex/sexual related acts over and over and over and over until you were so much of a horny basta$d so angry voiced your opinion and nothing sure sex slump whatever. This is BS.
Wakely Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 I would try to make the other person feel sexy and seduce them. I would behave in such a way that they WANTED to have sex with me, rather than it being all about ME and what I wanted, and pressuring them to do it.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 I'd dump them. I don't see any reason to be in a relationship with someone who would do that. Life is entirely too short to stay with someone you are incompatible with.
Author rudeaims Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 Cooking a bomb a$$ dinner done wearing hot new lingerie done having a good time and laughing for hours done having him prefer me over porn not so much Sick of it F'n sick of it... I love how this forum marks all the cheaters for being *********s but never is it considered that the other person might have led them to the brink of insanity
JohnP82 Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Dump them and find someone that doesn't do that.
vanilla87 Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Not worth your time. You should be with someone who wants to get their freak on just as much as you. Your entitled to that right in a relationship... Anyone that doesn't respect your needs, doesn't respect your part in the relationship, period.
reservoirdog1 Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 I love how this forum marks all the cheaters for being *********s but never is it considered that the other person might have led them to the brink of insanity An overall lack of sex in a relationship is not grounds for cheating. Cheating is unacceptable and incompatible with any semblance of a healthy relationship. However, a lack of sex IS grounds for either of the following: 1) Sitting your partner down and telling them that you don't understand why, despite all of your efforts, attempts at seduction, etc., the relationship is completely sexless, and then telling them that it either needs to be addressed and fixed by both of you ASAP or they have to agree to let you go elsewhere to get your sexual needs met. (This would not constitute cheating, since it involves full disclosure in advance and efforts to fix the problem together.) 2) Ending the relationship.
Thaddeus Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Anyone that doesn't respect your needs, doesn't respect your part in the relationship, period.+1. QFT. Everyone who's in a sexless relationship needs to understand this. Makes no difference if you're male or female. If your partner is not respecting your needs (ie: thinking that wanting sex is "selfish") then they clearly don't respect you as a partner or even as a person.
Island Girl Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 An overall lack of sex in a relationship is not grounds for cheating. Cheating is unacceptable and incompatible with any semblance of a healthy relationship. However, a lack of sex IS grounds for either of the following: 1) Sitting your partner down and telling them that you don't understand why, despite all of your efforts, attempts at seduction, etc., the relationship is completely sexless, and then telling them that it either needs to be addressed and fixed by both of you ASAP or they have to agree to let you go elsewhere to get your sexual needs met. 2) Ending the relationship. I agree with this. But I wouldn't include the "go elsewhere" to get your needs met. And I would be addressing counseling and every other available avenue for assistance I could find before calling it quits.
reservoirdog1 Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 I agree with this. But I wouldn't include the "go elsewhere" to get your needs met. And I would be addressing counseling and every other available avenue for assistance I could find before calling it quits. The "go elsewhere" part is an extreme measure, I agree. Whether or not that card gets played should depend on whether or not the other partner displays willingness to work on the problem together, through counselling, etc. If they're completely unwilling to work on it, then "go elsewhere" may be a reasonable option. A relationship is about working together to solve problems. Where one partner refuses to do so, the other one shouldn't be confined to what's essentially a prison. As I understand it, there are couples who have this sort of arrangement: one of them is not interested in sex, and they agree that the other can pursue sex with others within certain parameters (health and safety, discretion, etc.). I have no idea how stable such arrangements can be or what they do to the relationship, and maybe it's worth just ending the relationship if it comes to that. But sometimes the couples genuinely love, care about and value each other as partners, but just have totally incompatible sexual needs. And sometimes that's nobody's fault... it's just the way it is.
MSUE Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 I'd go nuts!!!! i would get rid of him...I need to be w someone that wants and desires me...I have a very high sex drive...I wouldn't be able to handle it
harmfulsweetz Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Sit him down, discuss the issues. There may be some underlying cause, etc. But do this first and foremost. Try watching the porn together, maybe if it's not too hardcore or if you are comfortable, imitating what's in the porn, try and reinstate the intimacy, but it has to be a two way street, if you are doing this alone, go and masterbate seriously. The other option is to end it, find someone who is compatible.
2sure Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Tell him straight up: You have needs. Sex is a physical release from stress as much as it is a reconnect for committed couples. You were not made to go without it. Tell him to step up or think of another way you can solve your problem.
alexxx Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 I love how this forum marks all the cheaters for being *********s but never is it considered that the other person might have led them to the brink of insanity I think you got it all wrong. Let me try to explain. People on this board are not saying that it would be wrong for you to have sex with other people. They are just trying to explain that it should be done with style/respect/dignity, which means AFTER you separate with your current boyfriend/husband.
vanilla87 Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 I think you got it all wrong. Let me try to explain. People on this board are not saying that it would be wrong for you to have sex with other people. They are just trying to explain that it should be done with style/respect/dignity, which means AFTER you separate with your current boyfriend/husband. Well actually I think were all trying to say is that if you normally expect to have sex in a relationship, but your partner is not giving you any, then you need to talk to them about it. If they don't get it still then you might have to break up with this person and go else where, cause if they don't get it now, they won't ever get it. Basically everyone has a right to have sex with their partner. If their partner doesn't then you have a right ask/demand sex or leave this person. You have needs, if they are not met your not bound to stay in a unsatisfied relationship. If I'm in a relationship, this is my personal opinion here, if I'm not getting sex in less then 3-6 months of being involved, then I actually get mean. Not very b****y but I tend to chew out the guy if he doesn't understand that I have a high sex drive then normal women. My one relationship, HE was asking for a lot more sex then me and we would get into fights about not seeing each other during the week cause he wanted to spend more time together. I did learn when we went on a 2 week vacation together, that we had sex every day, sometimes twice if the urge strike. But I was a lot younger and just got out of high school then (four years ago), so I didn't have that much experience in romance and sex combine lol it was quit a learning experience let me tell you...
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Cooking a bomb a$$ dinner done wearing hot new lingerie done having a good time and laughing for hours done Sounds like just flailing around in the dark. having him prefer me over porn not so much Sick of it F'n sick of it... I love how this forum marks all the cheaters for being *********s but never is it considered that the other person might have led them to the brink of insanity Bah... I've been through this... and I went the wrong way with it. Cheating didn't get me what I wanted. It wasn't satisfying... it sucked. Actually it was amazing for like 2 hours... then it sucked butt. Now... Divorce... That didn't suck. Also... what guy chooses porn over a flesh and blood woman? You would have to be just beastly...
vanilla87 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Bah... I've been through this... and I went the wrong way with it. Cheating didn't get me what I wanted. It wasn't satisfying... it sucked. Actually it was amazing for like 2 hours... then it sucked butt. Now... Divorce... That didn't suck. Also... what guy chooses porn over a flesh and blood woman? You would have to be just beastly... Sounds like to me that you won't go through that bullshyt again. Anyway, its true. If a guy chooses a girl over porn more then he should, he probably has lost attraction to her long ago. She needs to step it up a notch and actually take control of the situation. Don't do that silly romance stuff, just get a sexy new pair of bra and panties/thong, not that stuff walmart kind or victoria secret expensive stuff, there are stores that sell good kinds that are pretty and not expensive. Then you just take control and demand sex or pull him into the bedroom. Guys want a girl/woman that takes control every now and then in the bedroom. By doing that your sure to get him in the mood again...
Dexter Morgan Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 What would you do if your man/woman denied you of sex/sexual related acts over and over and over and over until you were so much of a horny basta$d so angry voiced your opinion and nothing sure sex slump whatever. This is BS. if it was sex all together, and they never wanted to have sex, then I'd leave. If it was just one act, like a blowjob, that I wasn't getting...geez, I'm not that damn shallow. Sex is important and as long as it is there once in a while, I'm good. Stopping all together, that would be a problem. But since this is the cheating forum, if you are looking for whether someone would cheat, my answer would be no. I'd leave if it were that bad.
Author rudeaims Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 I have talked about it til I am blue in the face- I have been with him for about 8 yrs. I am SICK of his porn addiction taking the shot gun. Really I have tried everything- the only thing that SUCKS...and I mean suck ball*ack is our sexlife. Everything else is the best. I feel like just crying I mean first of all, I do not mean to toot my own horn but I am a very attractive woman who knows what is up and second it is not like my "hit stinks if you know what I mean. I do not blame ANY bit of myself as when we took a break years ago I was VERY desired...he has a horrible porn addiction and I really am about done with it...especially when we just got back from a Labor Day weekend and he could not even keep it up without asking for a porn. I just felt ike punching him in the throat. If I cheated on him...I would not feel the least bit guilty nor could he blame me. I am f'n gorgeous and really...screw all that sh*t.
Dexter Morgan Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 If I cheated on him...I would not feel the least bit guilty nor could he blame me. Sure he could. If you are going to cheat, why stay in a relationship with him. Why not just break up and find someone more compatible with you? And if you wouldn't feel guilty cheating, then you need to leave because obviously he isn't the one for you. I am f'n gorgeous. uh.....ok:o
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