frustr8ed Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 This gal I know from work has taken an interest in me. I'm 35 and really can't grasp why. I find it really flattering because she is quite beautiful and totally my type phisically but the maturity level is obviously quite different. She also has just got out of her first real relationship, so I have to be careful not to be stuck being the rebound. I am trying to figure out if I should go for it with no expectations and enjoy the ride or leave it be. It's a battle of my upper and lower brains:p. At this point in my life I really would like to get into a LTR and settle down with someone, but I am not making much headway there either. So wachya all think, should I stay away or see what happens?
MissJoness Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 It's not uncommon for a 21 year old to find an older guy 35 attractive. It's not like you're a 60 year old prune. I find men in their 30s attractive. The oldest guy I liked was 47 years old
You'reasian Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 This gal I know from work has taken an interest in me. I'm 35 and really can't grasp why. I find it really flattering because she is quite beautiful and totally my type phisically but the maturity level is obviously quite different. I am trying to figure out if I should go for it with no expectations and enjoy the ride or leave it be. It's a battle of my upper and lower brains:p. At this point in my life I really would like to get into a LTR and settle down with someone, but I am not making much headway there either. So wachya all think, should I stay away or see what happens? Don't set up any expectations. Go in with an open mind and see what comes of it. Have fun. Live it up.
GorillaTheater Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Perhaps for the same reason I found a 33-year-old woman incredibly hot when I was 18 or 19. Of course, that was almost entirely sexual. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
Citizen Erased Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 You ask why...have you met a lot of 21 year old guys lately? The chances of this working out are slim, it's not a huge age gap but it's still pretty big. But it's a shame if you don't go for it. Wasted opportunities are sad. 1
CaliGuy Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Yep, I have the same problem (if it really is a problem). I am 40 and dated a 22 year old from work. The two things you really have to be concerned about is does she act older and mature or does she act like a 21 year old? Secondly, if it doesn't work out, is it going to cause problems. If you're good to go with both of them I say go for it. Just be careful.
Author frustr8ed Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 She just turned 21 so hitting the local bars and drinking is new and fun for her. Most of her friends are a few years older, so I think she is just taking advantage of finally getting to go out with them. The thing I like is she will bust my balls to hang out. I never used to go out when I was her age because I was really insecure about my weight (I was a fatty), but I took care of that problem a few years ago, which is why the youngins are chasing me now. So it might be nice to do some of the things I missed out on. I guess I will just see what happens and have some fun with it.
BCCA Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 The two things you really have to be concerned about is does she act older and mature or does she act like a 21 year old? Secondly, if it doesn't work out, is it going to cause problems. If you're good to go with both of them I say go for it. Just be careful. This^ Best advice anyone can give. She just turned 21 so hitting the local bars and drinking is new and fun for her. Ive known many girls to turn 21. Ive known 0 of those girls to be LTR material. I say go into thinking at the worst you're having fun, and see where it goes. What have you got to lose?
Lucky_One Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Are you in a position at work to give her raises or promotions or write her reviews or give her perks? Any reason why you shouldn't date her, corporate-wise? Co-worker jealousy wise? Always things to think about, before getting too friendly with a co-worker.
Author frustr8ed Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 Work shouldn't interfere, I am a line cook and she is a waitress. This kind of stuff happens all the time in that business. My job comes first anyway and that will be known to her. I really don't think it could be a lasting thing, I am the complete opposite of her x. He was verbably and emotionally abusive to her and that just ain't my style. Young women tend to follow the same pattern when it comes to men, they like the drama. So she will probably get bored with me:p. I do like her though. She is a spitfire and likes to give people attitude, the key is to give it right back and she chills out instantly. I figure if I take her out I can get a feel for what she is like one on one.
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