HBJen Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 So - I got flowers from him, for my bday today. Note says: Happy Birthday Jen. Hope you have a great day and Hope you feel better soon. XXX And that was it. Guess I should be happy for the flowers, but the note made it feel like pity flowers, lol. Any guys out there to decipher that one?
DustySaltus Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Flowers could mean a lot of things. Your situation is a lot like mine..two different countries, going stir crazy, no cheating but other things broke you up. I know when I send flowers it's because I genuinely care about the person as opposed to "oh he did something wrong". But caring about you doesn't necessarily equate to wanting to get back together. Take it from me, I know first hand....and I'm in the US and she is in Israel. That's a long way for anyone to go without being sure of the others feelings. I would say thank you and leave it at that.
mickleb Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Hi HBJen. Happy Birthday, sweetheart! Make sure you do something today that is special and just for you. (Remember what Brian said in your first post - if not, look it up!) I'm sorry to say that I think this is evidence that he cares for you but is unable, at the moment, to see you as his girl. The flowers are a token. There is no romance around them. Sorry to be brutal on your birthday, and all but, firstly - that's honestly my response - and secondly - I really want you to take some time to look after just you, today. Not him. Not him and you. Just you. I want to see you post up here what you're going to do to treat yourself. No come on, lady! Btw, here's your birthday hug: (((((((((HBJen))))))))))) xxxxx
silic0ntoad Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 So - I got flowers from him, for my bday today. Note says: Happy Birthday Jen. Hope you have a great day and Hope you feel better soon. XXX And that was it. Guess I should be happy for the flowers, but the note made it feel like pity flowers, lol. Any guys out there to decipher that one? He's trying to disarm you. Look Jen, you've given me advice, and I you- I would hope you cast out that note and hang those flowers upside down to dry out. I would pay them no heed. I don't think it's a good idea to contact him or vice versa... Jen, do you have a breakup buddy? You should.
Author HBJen Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Thanks for the words of advice! Its all confusing, full of mixed msgs from all over the place. I know I should concentrate on me, but I feel like concentrating on me would be to have the man that I love so dearly. And I need to let it go. Dusty - the distance is tough - makes it much easier for him and much harder for me, lol mick - u are a sweetheart. I think its true, he is "unable" at the moment, because he is trying to "find himself", and I understand that. I swear, that David Cook Song "Come Back To Me" was written for us. Toad - Its sad but, I dont have many friends here. I have loads of friends, but they just arent here. I have my mom, who is amazing - but, I get sick of her jaded views on life. Wanna be my breakup buddy? LMAO
mickleb Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Sorry my love but that is just not good enough! Now - you didn't spend every single minute with this man when you were together, did you? What did you get up to, away from him, that was just for you? What stuff were you into before he arrived on the scene? I want to know! I like watching DVDs (yes, dull, I know) but I haven't even wanted to hire one since we split up because we used to do this together so much. But yesterday, here in the UK, it was a Bank Holiday. And I wanted to celebrate it! So, I went to the shop, picked a DVD (it was great - Lemony Snicket's do dah - I hadn't seen it before), I got myself some nice juice, made some tasty dinner, got my dog up on my bed and I watched MY film! He popped into my head and made me cry once. I turned the film off, had a cry, then put it on again. That single experience is one of the best things I've done for myself since this happened over a month ago. I'm telling you! Now. What (I don't care how little it is) thing are you going to do for yourself? Come on, my dearest, there must be something..? xxx
silic0ntoad Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Toad - Its sad but, I dont have many friends here. I have loads of friends, but they just arent here. I have my mom, who is amazing - but, I get sick of her jaded views on life. Wanna be my breakup buddy? LMAO Well, you'd have to call me by my real name-lol! If you needed one, I would do it. You've helped me thru my BS and I would do the same to you, so if you want, I will.
Author HBJen Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Sorry my love but that is just not good enough! Now - you didn't spend every single minute with this man when you were together, did you? What did you get up to, away from him, that was just for you? What stuff were you into before he arrived on the scene? I want to know! I like watching DVDs (yes, dull, I know) but I haven't even wanted to hire one since we split up because we used to do this together so much. But yesterday, here in the UK, it was a Bank Holiday. And I wanted to celebrate it! So, I went to the shop, picked a DVD (it was great - Lemony Snicket's do dah - I hadn't seen it before), I got myself some nice juice, made some tasty dinner, got my dog up on my bed and I watched MY film! He popped into my head and made me cry once. I turned the film off, had a cry, then put it on again. That single experience is one of the best things I've done for myself since this happened over a month ago. I'm telling you! Now. What (I don't care how little it is) thing are you going to do for yourself? Come on, my dearest, there must be something..? xxx Before I met him, I played poker - constantly. And since I met him whilst doing that - it makes it hard. haha I am however going to go out for dinner with family in an hour or so - so that will be ok. I am lucky that I will be travelling for work next week - going to Budapest, so that will make a difference forsure. Thanks again, for your sweet support
mickleb Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Sorry my love, I've been caught up with people for the last few hours. Poker, eh? I'm crap at that. I always play card games and board games really safe. I'm the one who buys all the stations in Monopoly. I think you should try a game with some friends or family, maybe? A relaxing game with some matchsticks, or something? So pleased you're going out with your family. Let me know how it went! And Budapest? I am jealous! That will be great. Thanks for that. I'm so pleased to learn that you've got some good things to indulge in. You must do that. Even if it feels weird, at first. You've got to hold onto who you are. You're a very special person for being so generous with your man but you must give yourself something back. Hope that meal is the best you've ever tasted and that you have a lovely, warm, special time with your family. All the best, honey. See you here again. Sweet dreams. xxx
alphamale Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Any guys out there to decipher that one? there is nothing to decipher. it means exactly what it says.
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