Funky Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Not living this situation but wondering what most ppl would do in this situation. So your GF breaks up with you for x reasons, you tell her you don't want to lose her, that love you her, etc... Let's say 2-3 months go buy, you haven't had interest in dating, been keeping busy with other things still thinking of her every now and then knowing that you still love her. One day you get a call from her saying that she misses you, regrets the pain she caused you and wants to have you back in her life. However you learn that all she has been doing during this time is partying and sleeping around. What do you do, you know you love her and would want nothing more then have her back, yet are you ready to accept her actions? I think the main reason I ask this is that I can see this exact scenario happening to me and I don't know what I would do.
Author Funky Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Man I was really hoping for some feedback on this one!
melodymatters Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I'd really like to help, but I CAN"T see myself in that situation. Once someone rejects my love, disrespects me, doesn't treasure what we have, I lose all feelings except perhaps sentimental " we shared this once and it was cool, and part of me always" feelings. I've heard stories where it all works out, and stories where it keeps repeating the same pattern. Those just aren't my stories. I read your other thread and I wish you luck on moving on.....
tanbark813 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 In the past I've taken exes back but in hindsight it was a poor decision. I would like to think I would be wise enough if I ever found myself in the position again to not take her back. What she was doing in the interim is irrelevent.
GrayClouds Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 doesn't treasure what we have . I really like how you put that It depends if I was smart enough not to let love blind me. That I can see her actions are in line with her words. Ask her specifically why she changed her mind. I would ask her what does in her life mean, and what actions would she take to make that happen. Ask her if she understand the level of mistrust you now have for her and what she will do to dispel that mistrust. Likely she will get defensive rather then seeing your question as an oppertunity which tell you she not serious. All likelihood it would be a bad idea to entertain her ideas of getting back together. She is in a low point looking for a quick distraction until something else comes along.
vivrantflo Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 I wouldn't take her back, no way in hell. Does she think that these "reasons" for breaking up have been fixed in the past 2-3 months? That's her problem. She had something good, and broke it off so she could "see what's out there" and get filled by random dudes. If you take her back, she won't respect you, and it will happen again. She won't be scared of losing you, cause she'll assume you'll just take her back again. I know it's hard cause you do love her, but do you think for one second that she'd take you back if the script was flipped? Anyway, that's only IF she makes that contact to you regretting breaking up with you and wanting you back. The odds of getting that call from a dumper are slim to none, so try not to expect it
Author Funky Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 All very true thanks! I wonder if she is already sleeping with other guys... We're still living in the same house for a few more weeks... Man I don't know how I would react if I found out that she was, would I be intitled to call her a f'ing wh0re?
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