JL911 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Slowly but surely I am moving forward but still sad... Things I do not understand still: - Her myspace and facebook still plastered with pictures of us with loving headlines of how wonderful I am and how great everything is. I know she has been on and just hasnt removed them...odd...Why hasn't she removed them? If shes looking for someone else, how do pictures of her with her ex on her social networks help? - She asked my mother to keep sending pictures of my nephew and godson? Why does she still want to be included in the family after breaking my heart? - She told my sister that she could probaly marry me, but doesnt know if maybe there is someone better out there for her...WTF!?! What are your thoughts? Im just fishing for any input I can...Shes young just 22...maybe she will see the light again, but I dont know where I will be when that happens though... I've come to the sort of conclusion that she broke it off and probaly just wants to see what else is out there for her and is under the impression that she can just walk back into my life whenever she wants...Not that easy though.. I really just want to let go and get through this...Her ghost haunts me though...
NopeNah Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 1st-Stop looking at her myspace. How are you going to feel when you go to check and it's pics of her and someone else? 2nd- I'd ask your mother/sis to not send her anything or speak to her about you at all. She doesn't deserve to know how you are,blah,blah,ect. She sounds very immature and selfish to even be asking for these things. As far as the marrage thing, that's to only keep you hanging around on her string incase she changes her mind after she's sexed up a few other guys. I know...the last thing was harsh but, at 22 what do you think she means by "someone out there better for her" ?
Author JL911 Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Well you really arent telling me anything I dont already know. This whole thing went downhill in an awful hurry. I would have to think another party was involved in pressuring her away from me...It was a selfish reason to break up...and done in a very immature way...Something I never expected from her...Very out of character... I have ruled out reconsiling. I really dont know what would have to be said to me or done to have me even consider a second chance... I just want to move on and be done with all this...I just want to get her out of my head...
NopeNah Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Looks like you're heading the right direction in moving on. Acceptance IS key in that! Goodluck to you.
GrayClouds Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 She playing mind games with you. Stringing you along to boost her ego at your expensive. No Contact, no facebook, no myspace, ask family to respect it, if she contacts them tell them to tell her to contact you. If she does try, then NO CONTACT. Respect yourself by not letting her disrespect you.
Author JL911 Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 I deleted my myspace. Blocked on Facebook. My sister called her a few days after the breakup asking why the heck she would leave a guy who would always be there for her love her, and be loyal and trustworthy...I guess it was a bad decision on her part...Maybe she will regret it someday...who knows...I know what my intentions were. I know what kind of person I am...While you might physically replace me, you wont easily find someone to who is capable of everything I was... Its sad...I dont know what else I can do. I tried. I cried, begged, and pleaded my case like a little Bit@h. When all that failed, I just swallowed my pride and took it on the chin. I havent spoken to her in over 3 weeks...I guess I'll just keep it that way unless she decides otherwise... What else can I do? I cant stop and postpone my life in hopes she will realize what she lost. Girls in these situations need to realize the Guy to Girl ratio is very very much in favor of the guys. Not to mention you start pulling the *********s, drunks, cheaters, and liars out of the guy population it is even harder to find a good guy like me...Should work in my favor in the long run I suppose. Still I was thrown away like yesterdays garbage...By a person I never would have expected it from...I thought I found my better half... Its kinda hard as a person not to sit there and sigh and say..."Now What?!?"
pie_eater Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 No matter how great you are or how hard it is for her to find a worthy new guy (if ever), she doesn't want you. And it's not something you can rationalize and it may not be fair. She just doesn't want you. Even if you accept it in your head, it will still feel bad. I don't say this to knock you down, just to point out that you need to be with someone who wants to be with you, and that starts with yourself. You don't want her to continue to have emotional power over you; you are going to take it back by working on your life without her. It's hard, really hard, but it's your only choice.
GrayClouds Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I deleted my myspace. Blocked on Facebook. " Very Good Its sad...I dont know what else I can do. I tried. " Yes it is all you can do is start to heal, give up on the dream, become a better you, and then, only then, find someone who truly loves you. Start by reading both of these: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance?
adamt Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 short term you feel bad when you block and unfriend your ex on facebook, But believe me a week later it does make you feel better when you can not check anymore
Author JL911 Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 It was like the world collapsed around me...It still is like that. Sleep still is not easy. I really miss her. All those little stupid things I always took for granted are the hardest to live without... The tears just wont come anymore. There are times when I feel like I am ready to just cry and it just never comes...All of this happened with very little warning... I've lost my best friend... ok...the tears finally came...
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