Roxanna Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 This is a Facebook question, and I just want to know what other people think about this, or if you have any possible explanation. My bf's profile picture was one of the two of us together. People who mutually knew us commented or "liked" the picture. This seems very normal to me. It's what people do. Yesterday my bf changed his profile picture to a more recent photo of the two of us. No one that we mutually knew commented or "liked" the photo, which is fine...but two girls whom I have never met, and who my bf has never mentioned to me (unless it was so casually and in passing that he didn't even mention their names) "liked" the photo. I've known my bf for years, so I know these two girls (one is definitely a girl, she looks like she's 18 or 19; the other is probably a little older) are absolutely not good friends or anything like that - I would have met them or heard about them if they were. Neither of them are "new" facebook friends, as he's had the same number of friends for quite awhile. Neither have ever written on his wall, commented on anything, or "liked" anything before. In fact, people that I don't know or know of don't write on his wall, make comments, or "like" things. This is the first time it's happened. I have acquaintances on Facebook, but they don't mess around on my wall, unless it's a news story, (so they don't get personal or comment on personal things) and vice versa. I'm not taking this terribly seriously (I mean c'mon it's Facebook), but I'm a little weirded out by it. If it were just a picture of him, or one of him and his friends I would feel differently. It's just the fact that it's the two of us, they don't know me, they probably don't know my bf well enough to know about me, so........? I'll probably ask my bf later who the girls are, I just don't want him to think I'm making a huge deal about it, or being insecure or something. So what do you think? If you think I'm making too big a deal out of this, go ahead and say so, but mostly I'm interested in if other people do things like this, and why someone would do something like this.
Sistine Chapel Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Don't take it too personal, It's kinda like walking with your hubby, and you pass someone on the street and they nod at you. Maybe you look like you belong together and people are just recognizing it. I wouldn't press the matter, but don't be oblivious to something, if something is going on.
leap83 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 You're making a big deal about this. Maybe the 2 girls liked the photo of you two - thought you were cute or that it's great to be in love or w.e. so they voted "I like." There's nothing weird about that. It's fb!!!! Why in the world would you even care about this?! Sorry if I seem a bit harsh. My question to you is: why make a problem out of nothing?
Author Roxanna Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 You're making a big deal about this. Maybe the 2 girls liked the photo of you two - thought you were cute or that it's great to be in love or w.e. so they voted "I like." There's nothing weird about that. It's fb!!!! Why in the world would you even care about this?! Sorry if I seem a bit harsh. My question to you is: why make a problem out of nothing? It's okay - I'm not mad about this or anything else. If I bring it up with my bf I would probably just comment on something along the lines of it's cool that people who don't know me must think we look good together. I wouldn't attack him for having girls I don't know as friends So I guess what I'm saying is that I'm not going to make this into an issue with my bf - at the most I would comment on it in a positive way and see what he says.
Lyssa Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I would take it as a compliment than anything else.
Wakely Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I disagree with the other posters. I don't think it's anything to worry about, but I do agree with the OP that it's weird. If these girls appeared anywhere else on your bf's profile I would say whatever, it's normal, but if the only thing they have ever commented on, and you don't know them or of them, that's sort of odd. I think you should ask your bf about it.
Lyssa Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I disagree with the other posters. I don't think it's anything to worry about, but I do agree with the OP that it's weird. If these girls appeared anywhere else on your bf's profile I would say whatever, it's normal, but if the only thing they have ever commented on, and you don't know them or of them, that's sort of odd. I think you should ask your bf about it. What's so weird about it?
Wakely Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 What's so weird about it? Well I'll preface this by saying that I'm 33, so maybe I don't use fb the way younger people do. However, in my mind, the people who would normally be commenting on a picture of a guy and his gf are: 1. Mutual friends 2. Family members 3. Good friends of the guy who know or know of the gf and vice versa 4. People who tend to comment in general on a person's wall and posts 5. People who click the like button for everything In other words, people who have some sort of interest in the relationship, either because they know both people, or because they're friends with the guy, NOT just acquaintances who most likely don't know much about his personal life. And then of course the people who are on fb all the time commenting and liking everything in sight. So again, I don't think there's anything to worry about, but I agree that it's a little odd.
Lyssa Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Fair enough. I still don't see any big deal about it.
Wakely Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Fair enough. I still don't see any big deal about it. Well I don't think the OP seems to think it's a big deal, more like she's just wondering why someone who she perceives as barely knowing her bf would comment on a pic of the two of them, but not on anything else on his profile ever. She just thinks it's a little weird, and I can understand that, since it involves her (she said she wouldn't even think about it if it were just her bf or him and his friends), but she has no idea who these people are, and they probably don't know about her, other than what's on her bf's profile (as in, he probably doesn't talk about her with these other girls). And I don't think it's a big deal either, but I can appreciate that the OP stopped and thought "huh?"
Lyssa Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Well I don't think the OP seems to think it's a big deal, more like she's just wondering why someone who she perceives as barely knowing her bf would comment on a pic of the two of them, but not on anything else on his profile ever. She just thinks it's a little weird, and I can understand that, since it involves her (she said she wouldn't even think about it if it were just her bf or him and his friends), but she has no idea who these people are, and they probably don't know about her, other than what's on her bf's profile (as in, he probably doesn't talk about her with these other girls). And I don't think it's a big deal either, but I can appreciate that the OP stopped and thought "huh?" Yeah okay. You made your point in your first and second post already. Some people would think it's weird, some people would think nothing of it. Simple as that. I asked what was weird and you explained. No need to explain any further.
butcher's hook Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 What's weird about these women commenting they liked the picture? What am I missing here? I see nothing wrong here.
butcher's hook Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Well I'll preface this by saying that I'm 33, so maybe I don't use fb the way younger people do. However, in my mind, the people who would normally be commenting on a picture of a guy and his gf are: 1. Mutual friends 2. Family members 3. Good friends of the guy who know or know of the gf and vice versa 4. People who tend to comment in general on a person's wall and posts 5. People who click the like button for everything In other words, people who have some sort of interest in the relationship, either because they know both people, or because they're friends with the guy, NOT just acquaintances who most likely don't know much about his personal life. And then of course the people who are on fb all the time commenting and liking everything in sight. So again, I don't think there's anything to worry about, but I agree that it's a little odd. I disagree with that. If you add someone to FB you obviously feel comfortable enough with them that you don't mind sharing personal aspects of your life with them, so if they comment on your pics it's a free for all. If you are going to get offended or worried that a contact comments on something in your profile perhaps you should reconsider why you added them to your page to begin with. Granted in this case it is not the OP who added these women but she should understand that whatever her boyfriend posts on his profile, even if it's a picture of the two of them, is subject to scrutiny from all his contacts. That is what you sing up for when you share of yourself on FB.
boogieboy Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I think the OP isnt stating that she thinks these girls are commenting on the picture in sort of a way to flirt and break the ice to start a rapport with him, since they dont know him. When people post their pictures on facebook, a bulletin is sent out to everyone. So as soon as people see it, sometimes they comment on it. Just saying "nice picture"...might not be anything untoward, but I think the OP is jealous and trying to downplay it.
Isolde Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 To me, the "I like" feature is probably the most innocuous of all facebook features. I've had people I barely know "like" some of my comments or pictures, and I didn't think twice about it. Yeah, it's a little "creepy", but then again, facebook is inherently creepy.
Author Roxanna Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Geez what is with the nastiness and judgmental attitudes on this forum? Can't people be nice? Thanks Isolde Your response actually makes me feel a little differently. Boogieboy, maybe you're right, to an extent. I wouldn't attribute this to jealousy exactly; however, earlier another girl (who my bf had mentioned to me - they work together and he knows she has a crush on him), who also never wrote, commented or liked anything (EVER, same as these girls), all of a sudden, all in one day, commented on several of his pictures of the two of us. None of the pictures were new. It seemed to me (and other people that know her) that she was doing that catty thing some girls do when they like a guy who likes someone else - compliment the other girl and be super nice about it, all with a hidden agenda at trying to get in with the guy. One of the girls that "liked" this picture I suspect is an intern that worked with my bf this summer that he recently mentioned in passing. He didn't name her, so I can't be sure. From what he told me, it sounded like she was trying to flirt with him. So I'm not jealous - I really don't feel threatened by these girls, and I trust my bf, but I guess I'm kind of wondering if this is something that girls do. It's just weird to me, although apparently I'm horribly wrong for feeling that way
Author Roxanna Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 Another girl, who I know for a fact currently has a major crush on my bf, and who is always flirting with him just also "liked" this photo sometime today. She always writes on his wall and makes comments on everything he posts, but literally never on anything that has anything to do with me. I think this "liking" thing is definitely weird. I'm not even kidding, people I don't know or know of HAVE NEVER commented or liked ANYTHING on his profile since I've met him (years ago). This is weird.
silverfish Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 So three (?) random women have 'liked' this picture now? And another one is commenting on pictures of you and your boyfriend together...that is a little strange. Do you have a really cool handbag in the picture? That's the only reason I can think of why so many of them would suddenly 'like' it. Why don't you get him (as a joke ) to put something like this http://www.grimmemennesker.dk/ugly-people-362.htm on there and see what they do next? Seriously, talk to him about it. But you could have some fun with it if he wants to play along
Author Roxanna Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 That's pretty funny. I don't want to seem insecure by asking about it, since mostly I just think it's weird. Last night he mentioned that a woman he works with told him she saw "the picture of him with a really hot girl." I know he was telling me as a compliment, but now, after the fact, I'm kind of wondering why she said that instead of "Your gf is really hot." Anyways, since he brought it up I asked "Oh is she one of the girls who "liked" the picture?" And he hesitated (thinking about who liked it I'm sure) and said no. And that was it. The end.
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