LB85 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 This guy would also ruthlessly flirt and act interested. He never took initiative though. I added him online but he was always the one to write messages first. Once he left all his friends to hang out with me at a party and he knew he wasn't going to get anything at the end of it but still we just talked the whole time. He once gave me a kiss on my cheek in front of my brother at the club and since this isn't appropriate in the Indian crowd here, I confronted him and I said it wasn't nice that he did it in front of him but he said he was drunk and he said he wants to make it up to us by going for dinner with us and I of course said he didn't have to. Then I msgd him once for the first time myself and he asked me out but because he didn't reply in over two weeks after I told him to let me know about it, I planned a holiday and asked to take a rain check when he finally did get back to me. He then wrote to me after 20 days and did as if it didn't even happen and didn't even ask me when I was getting back.He just asked if I was enjoying my holiday. When I got back I thought its maybe wiser to take the initiative myself so I did and invited him to my birthday. But he didn't even wish me on my birthday and didn't even let me know if he was coming so I'm sure he's just not interested. I'm leaving out details but take my word for it! He has only lead me on and I don't get why. What did he get out of it? Now he has even lost a potential friend and god I just want to avoid the idiot!
Myst Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Guys are block heads and can be heartless pricks. I know from experience. He was just having fun at your expense to boost his ego. The only way u truly know a guy is into you is if he makes a date. That is, he chooses a venue, time and date and shows up. If he was into you he wouldnt want any other guy getting a chance to date you but him. I know it sucks, as ive had this happen to me. Just remember the above and ull be fine. Forget about this prick you talk of.
Vet Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 This guy would also ruthlessly flirt and act interested. He never took initiative though. I added him online but he was always the one to write messages first. Once he left all his friends to hang out with me at a party and he knew he wasn't going to get anything at the end of it but still we just talked the whole time. He once gave me a kiss on my cheek in front of my brother at the club and since this isn't appropriate in the Indian crowd here, I confronted him and I said it wasn't nice that he did it in front of him but he said he was drunk and he said he wants to make it up to us by going for dinner with us and I of course said he didn't have to. Then I msgd him once for the first time myself and he asked me out but because he didn't reply in over two weeks after I told him to let me know about it, I planned a holiday and asked to take a rain check when he finally did get back to me. He then wrote to me after 20 days and did as if it didn't even happen and didn't even ask me when I was getting back.He just asked if I was enjoying my holiday. When I got back I thought its maybe wiser to take the initiative myself so I did and invited him to my birthday. But he didn't even wish me on my birthday and didn't even let me know if he was coming so I'm sure he's just not interested. I'm leaving out details but take my word for it! He has only lead me on and I don't get why. What did he get out of it? Now he has even lost a potential friend and god I just want to avoid the idiot! Look at it from his side. You: 1) Never initiated online contact with him; 2) Admonished him for him kissing you; 3) Declined him when he asked you out to dinner; 3) Declined him when he asked out you after messaging him; 4) Were angry at him because he didn't ask when you were getting back. These details you're leaving out, do they make you look worse? Sounds like he was trying to make things happen, but you weren't having it or what resulted was a long string of miscommunication. A better question might be "Why is he even bothering with you?"
Author LB85 Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Yeh I noticed I wasn't always the easiest to be with but its because he never made me comfortable enough. He would always send mixed signals which forced me to be guarded. He didn't bother with me, I always showed my interest and was upright about my intentions. It was obvious that I was interested but I needed him to at least be a little clearer. And when he asked me to meet up it was after I wrote to him myself for the first time. I then replied within a day asking him to let me know about meeting up since my holidays are starting anyway. After that he took a good 2 weeks; I felt so ditched and by that time my friends convinced me to come and visit them. I wasn't going to just wait on him obviously! Thats why I asked him if we could plan something when I got back and he never got back to me. I then took initiative myself, asking him to come to my birthday. He didn't take up on it. He even wrote to me a few days back wishing me on my bday and he then said he wanted to call me but doesn't have my number (obv because he never took it!). After this he just said he can't wait to hear about my holidays and asked how my bday was. I mean wtf...he could have asked to meet up after that so he has just lead me on!! I wish you were right...and I did see it your way until this happened
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