MissHamilton Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Okay so its been 3 years since ive been in a relationship and its never really bothered me until recently. Im getting a bit left out by my "close friends" as they are moving in together / getting engaged / pregnant .. and doing things as couples ... I dont get invited to the meals, days out, cinemas, nights in etc alot of the time as I think they may not want me to feel a bit of a gooseberry. I have other friends who i spend most my time with. But im starting to feel like im missing out on all this love and affection with someone special. I havent even been on a "date" as such since me and my ex broke up, simply because I have enjoyed being single and having fun without a boyfriend wanting to know where im going and what im doing all the time. I have alot of guy friends who i spend most of my spare time with so its not like im not getting any interaction with the opposite sex. But sometimes i just wish to be closer than friends to a guy .. not necessarily as boyfriend / girlfriend .. not NSA stuff .. just kinda like a best friend .. someone who I can chill out with, go have fun with, hugs kisses, go out with my coupled friends with and basically only have the emotional attachment of a best friend basis but with the affection you get from a relationship Is it possible for a situation like that to happen? Or do you think girls get too attached and fall for the guy friend .. Or vice versa. Or guys start wanting the sexual side too ? Any opinions would be appreciated
neowulf Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Is it possible for a situation like that to happen? Or do you think girls get too attached and fall for the guy friend .. Or vice versa. Or guys start wanting the sexual side too ? Any opinions would be appreciated Ok, I'll go with what's *most* likely to happen. The majority of guys whom you form an emotional "touchy, cuddling quazi" relationship with will sooner or later attempt to sexualize it (Providing they're straight). Generally speaking, women are usually ok with being friends with a guy *providing* they are not attracted to them. I've had a few female friends over the years who were very affectionate (hugs, kisses on the cheek etc), but ultimately, that kind of behavior is really a warm up for the main event (sex). If I was being *that* affectionate with any of my female friends, my guess is I'd probably be wanting to take it further. It'd just feel weird for me being "friends" with a girl where we were that physically intimate (even without sex). Sad to say, you might have to go out and form an actual relationship Yeah.. I know.. sucks
mark982 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 miss hamilton, i know exactly what you're talking about. yrs ago i had a female friend exactly like you're talking about,christ we were best friends,went everywhere together,everything except sex. did the hugging,kissing,holding hands etc. i loved it,great conversation,hell everyone thought we were a couple.THEN she screwed it up by getting serious,wanted more out of our friendship. didn't work out,and i truely regret losing the best friend i probable ever had.
Vlad Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I've never experienced that, ever since I can remember I had a gf and a few "lets meet to have some fun tonight" girls around me, so I can’t even begging to help you I guess. But sometimes I wish I had a few months alone without a relationship on my shoulders.
Surfer Girl Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I don't think it is that easy to be in a relationship...FWB or just someone to cuddle, go out with.... as in most cases one or the other becomes to emotionally involved...
whiteberry Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 someone who I can chill out with, go have fun with, hugs kisses, go out with my coupled friends I was also think that way before.... and did it. But I realized that its' not good for me as a woman to be too close to someone who's not my boyfriend. Because you might look cheap for the other guys.... hence they won't become serious to you.
Maxwell Sage Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 My view on this scenario is as follows: If you want to be best friends, that's fine. Text frequently, hang out even more so frequently, be there when necessary. If you're going to kiss, cuddle or do any thing that typically comes along with a relationship, why not call it that? It sounds like you'd just like to be in a relationship minus the responsibility, while remaining celibate.
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