jimbo Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I met this girl a few days ago. It was like a singles get together. She is very attractive, and she knows it. Didn't sit next to her right away. Through the night I talked to her on and off. Towards the end of the night, like the last four hours, she sat next to me and we shared a drink. I was about to go, and she told me to call her. Said fine, but I do not have your number. She gave me her number and hugged me goodbye. From what I remember, she did not hug or give anyone else her number. So I called her yesterday evening and left a message, so far, never heard back. Obviously, I am not going to call her again, but do you think she is taking her time cause I took a couple of days to call her? I mean, why give me your number and ask me to call if you were not going to return my call? After all, I did not ask for it, she offered it up. Not trying to make a big deal of it, but it is a bit confusing.
Lyssa Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 She's probably busy. If she doesn't call back in a few days, leave it be.
Thaddeus Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 She may be busy, may have not got the message, maybe she's a flake, who knows? Call her once more. Two calls is appropriate. Any more than that isn't.
Author jimbo Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 I would think another call would seem like I am running after her. After all, she jumped the gun and offered up her number. It usually does not end up this way.
alphamale Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Obviously, I am not going to call her again, but do you think she is taking her time cause I took a couple of days to call her? I mean, why give me your number and ask me to call if you were not going to return my call? After all, I did not ask for it, she offered it up. Not trying to make a big deal of it, but it is a bit confusing. i'd give her another 48 hours and then write her off
Author jimbo Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Wasn't a bar, but I get your point. Though, it was only three drinks over eight hours, so I doubt she was drunk. I'm not out any money, as she bought the drink, not me. And no, I did not ask her to buy me a drink. It wasn't a first meet or anything. Just a gathering.
BCCA Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I mean, why give me your number and ask me to call if you were not going to return my call? Dude, this is an age old question no one can answer. Look up 354838576385 of my posts asking the same question, women do that all the time. I litterally had a 6 month span where that happened to me every week. If this has never happened to you before, get used to it. She got your message, and chose not to return it. If you really want to give it another shot, you can make one more call in a couple days, but my rule of thumb is you call once, wait 48 hours, and delete thier number and forget they ever existed.
Author jimbo Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 No, I can honestly say it has never happened, that is why I was confused. I mean I am not an ugly guy, so I did not think she was out of reach, but I was not even trying to pick her up. I mean, I said goodbye to all, and then she said wait, came over and hugged me twice and said call me this week. Then gave me her number to call. Not really upset, but just dismayed at the immaturity. Its just rude. Just call back and say, it was nice seeing you, but there is nothing there and best of luck. Is that so difficult? Anyways, the more the game changes the more it stays the same.
BCCA Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 No, I can honestly say it has never happened, that is why I was confused. I mean I am not an ugly guy, so I did not think she was out of reach, but I was not even trying to pick her up. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. Women do this all the time, part for an ego boost, part because maybe they did actually like you and change their minds, and part because women are extremely fickle and change their minds often. If this is your first experience with this, consider yourself lucky and expect it to happen again. Now, when I get a girls number, I try not to get too far ahead of myself, and I dont stop trying to meet more girls and get more numbers. I think of the last 10 numbers Ive gotten, at least 8 of them never called me back, and one sent me a weak text about her phone not working. Ive had girls ALL OVER ME, who couldnt give me their number fast enough, and then they never call back. It is confusing, but its pretty typical.
alphamale Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. Women do this all the time, part for an ego boost, part because maybe they did actually like you and change their minds, and part because women are extremely fickle and change their minds often. If this is your first experience with this, consider yourself lucky and expect it to happen again. Now, when I get a girls number, I try not to get too far ahead of myself, and I dont stop trying to meet more girls and get more numbers. I think of the last 10 numbers Ive gotten, at least 8 of them never called me back, and one sent me a weak text about her phone not working. Ive had girls ALL OVER ME, who couldnt give me their number fast enough, and then they never call back. It is confusing, but its pretty typical. indeed BCCA
fishtaco Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Yeah, they're called number collectors. They swap numbers, but have no intention of using it, ever. The upside is, you can do the same if the need ever arises. Like maybe you changed your mind, realized it was the beer goggle working, whatever.
MikeJones Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Similiar thing happened to me this weekend. Met this girl at this party that came by herself. I was checking her out the whole time and saw she was talking to another guy. A half hour later, I was standing in a crowded area and she starts talking to me. We both only had a few drinks, so no beer goggles. Fast forward another half hour we sit on a bench outside and hang out for a good half hour and we, in my eyes, seemed to click. Our conversation flowed smoothly and we had a lot of similiar interests. She just moved out to my area a year ago and seemed very receptive to joining me in some outdoor activities. Body language seemed positive and lots of smiling between us. Later, I noticed the "other guy" was trying to interupt our mingling but her body language pointed closer to me and she distanced herself from him. Anyways we got to talk some more later and I asked her for her number. She seemed very receptive to me calling her, because 1) the first time I called her, her phone didn't ring (so she could save my number) and she said "Wait! call me again I didn't get it!" (good sign) and 2) when she was inputing my name in her phone she asked me what my last name was. Now, I'm thinking, if she wasn't into me or I was just another entry in her phone, she wouldn't care what my last name was. So come Monday, I gave her a call in the evening and got Mr. Voicemail. I just basically asked her how she was doing and for her to give me a call (when she gets a chance). So now it's almost Wednesday, and I'm scratching my head. What the F is going on? It's possible that she's just out to collect numbers. (I did notice when we were talking on the bench, she had wandering eyes which is OK because we just met and are not on a date, possibly a player? lol)...I think I might send her a text message tomorrow night, just in case something happened with her phone (see phone incident above). If not, I'm chalking this one up as a loss.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 After hearing Dimitri's message, I'm wondering what you SAID in your message. I'm not taking people at face-value anymore that they could be normal when they say they left a message.
BCCA Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 After hearing Dimitri's message, I'm wondering what you SAID in your message. I'm not taking people at face-value anymore that they could be normal when they say they left a message. He only said she was very elegant, but if she didnt call him by 3pm tomorrow, he was done. hahaha Anyways we got to talk some more later and I asked her for her number. She seemed very receptive to me calling her, because 1) the first time I called her, her phone didn't ring (so she could save my number) and she said "Wait! call me again I didn't get it!" (good sign) and 2) when she was inputing my name in her phone she asked me what my last name was. Now, I'm thinking, if she wasn't into me or I was just another entry in her phone, she wouldn't care what my last name was. Honestly, I have mixed feelings about the 'call me so I have your #' bit. Every girl thats done that to me hasnt answered or called me back, so take that for whatever it is. Ive heard similar stories from other guys. And as far as asking for your last name and whatever else, it could be part of the act. People can put on emmy award winning numbers when they want to, women more easily than men. Were so blinded by a pretty smile we dont even pay attention to the subtleties. I wouldnt read too much into anything besides her calling you back. I dont see anything wrong with texting her, but do it once and leave it alone.
Author jimbo Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 After hearing Dimitri's message, I'm wondering what you SAID in your message. I'm not taking people at face-value anymore that they could be normal when they say they left a message. Dimitri, that guy is just plain weird. Simple message. Like hey whats up its me from the weekend. Give me a call when you have some time. She did text me last night saying she was at work doing something. Asked what I was doing, then I asked what she was doing at work. Short answers. After that, never heard back. Not sure on her. I thought, since she was asking what I was doing it would be good to as what she was doing. Maybe not. Still no call back though.
BCCA Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Simple message. Like hey whats up its me from the weekend. Give me a call when you have some time. She did text me last night saying she was at work doing something. Asked what I was doing, then I asked what she was doing at work. Short answers. After that, never heard back. Not sure on her. I thought, since she was asking what I was doing it would be good to as what she was doing. Maybe not. Still no call back though. Meh, lukewarm interest at best. Sounds like a recent situation I had with a girl, in which I got some text about how her phone doesnt work, but we should go to lunch next week...never heard a thing, and that was two weeks ago. Still hasnt called you back, that should tell you everything you need to know right there. Like I said, you kind of have to chalk this one up and let it go.
Author jimbo Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 Even though she did not respond back to the last text, think its worth sending another on seeing if she's up for doing something this weekend?
loveslife Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 No, you deserve someone who is really very much into you.
BCCA Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Even though she did not respond back to the last text, think its worth sending another on seeing if she's up for doing something this weekend? I would say no. I just dont see anything positive coming from it, and chances are, she would just ignore it. She just doesnt seem all that interested for whatever reason. If she contacts you, see where it leads, but seriously - this is one of those things in life that you can predict the outcome of with 99.9% accuracy.
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