lilmrcheerful Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Hello all, I hope I am finding you all well. I'm in a bit of a predicament. I've been friends with a girl for around 5 months in which she asked me out on a date a few days ago. This was much unexpected especially since I felt like in all the time I was getting to know her we've never given each other that impression, for example, we’ve never flirted or even gave each other a hug let alone anything else! We’ve got to know each other quite well, we both have children and we've been on a few outings already as well as quite a few nights in watching movies, having a drink, having meals or just chatting, nothing ever deep just light hearted. We all get on really well and we also love the banter we both inflict upon each other, it's always light hearted and fun. Her gesture of wanting to go on a date has surprised me a little but I also didn't say no, indeed, I do like her a lot and I do find her attractive but I don't think I was expecting anything other than being good friends, especially with how our friendship was seemingly developing. Now normally on a first date, if I didn’t know a girl very well I would probably prefer to be more unconventional and maybe go somewhere like ice skating or something that included doing something active but in this situation I am not so sure. This feels different because even though it’s technically our first date, we have been out loads of times before either in groups or with children but now it feels like I am obliged to take her for something more personal like a meal so that the scene is more intimate to allow dialogue, especially since we both know each other very well and of course she’s probably looking for something a bit more romantic now, perhaps! I just wanted to ask really is my choice of location appropriate under the circumstances because as I said she has surprised me with wanting to date after 5 months of just friendship, this has never happened to me before normally the date thing happens straight away. Thank you for reading. Take Care.
Lucky_One Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Do both. Go ice-skating, and then go out for dinner.
Author lilmrcheerful Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Do both. Go ice-skating, and then go out for dinner. Yeah I thought that but apart from not having a lot of time (as we don't live very local to anything that has decent activities) when we do take the children somewhere like bowling she doesn't often join in so I am thinking she maybe feels a bit uncomfortable with that type of activity, especially on a first date although of course I can't be sure yet, I'd rather place it safe, I want her to feel as comfortable as possible. My first choice was actually taking her to a Comedy Club but that isn't until the 25th of September but she specifically wanted to go on a date asap so I've not really had "that" much time to organise something that I think we'd both really like.
Lucky_One Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I assume you are a good skater, and taking her skating is a great way to hold her hands or put your arm around her waist. She might not join in all activites when the kids are there because she is focused on the children. Take her skating, and then go somewhere casual for supper. Don't stress so about it - have fun! She obviously likes you, so the biggest hurdle is way over.
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