Arabella Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Long story short, I met my LD love recently and although everything seemed to go well between us, he has suddenly dropped contact over the past three days, which he has never done before. Last we talked before I got back home, we decided to go on a break because he needs to sort himself out but we agreed to remain in touch, which we did for a few days. He has a number of mental issues and is currently deeply depressed. More about my story here. Now I haven't heard from him in three days. He hasn't returned any of my calls or acknowledged any of my text messages. Before when he was very busy or depressed, he would always text me a couple times just to let me know he was ok. I'm honestly in a panic and I'm beginning to think something has happened to him. The last day I saw him before coming home, last week, he admitted to me that a car accident he was involved in a month ago hadn't truly been an accident. He allowed it to happen. I'm terrified that he's done something like that again. At first I thought he was just trying to disappear for a while to cool things off between us but now I'm starting to think that is simply not the case. I'm having all kinds of grim thoughts and they just won't go away. I could handle him texting me to let me know he never wants to speak to me again, but the not knowing whether he's even alive is just killing me. It hurts so much... I don't know what to do. Thoughts? Advice? Arabella
dashing daisy Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Oh my, you must be so terrified. I'm so sorry this is going on. Knowing what he did in the past, and not knowing now must be so scary, and I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. I know that your being on a break makes this a little harder, as I suppose it could be that he is just taking some time, but I understand that given his mental state you are worried. Do you have any of his friends numbers you could call? Or his parents? I'm not sure how old he is, or what his living situation is, but are you able to contact anyone that lives near him? I think that would be your best bet as far as finding out if he is okay or not. I am hoping that he is okay, keep us updated please.
D-Lish Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I'd be on the phone to his parents about this one. The fact that he is that depressed that he had no regard for his safety makes him dangerous to himself and others on the road. I don't think you can keep what you know to yourself hun. Imagine how awful you would feel if you knew he was thinking this way and let it go in the interest of protecting his privacy. It sounds like he could benefit from being committed- put on suicide watch. I'm sorry you're going though this. I think it's beyond your capacity to help. and he clearly needs professional intervention.
Author Arabella Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 He is 21 years old and lives with his parents. The sad thing is that his mother is actually a psychologist, but he has a very poor relationship with her. I don't think his parents even know what's going on with him half of the time. He is extremely good at putting on a face and functioning around them just to avoid getting into trouble. I have gotten a hold of his mother's cell phone number and I have his address, but at this point I'm kind of afraid to do anything. If I call his mother and tell her what I know, and he's just taking time off, he will likely freak out and it will be the end of us. I know his mother will give him a lot of trouble for it either way and make things worse for him. It might just push him over the edge. I've sent him countless text messages just asking him to let me know he's alright. I've even sent him one letting him know that I was going to reach out to his parents if he didn't contact me. No response whatsoever. Should I wait for a few days and then give his mother a call? I don't think she knows anything about me and I'm not even sure what to say or how to explain how I have her phone number (I looked it up on the Internet... she's a psychologist so her information is readily available). Won't it come across as kind of stalkerish? Last thing I want is to cause him more problems I'm just so worried... Arabella
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