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ok,

it's really simple. I'm looking at advices or books about relationship and how girls think and act. I keep having these issues that, i'm sure, everyone has, and i seriously don't know how to handle them.

 

For example, my girlfriend tells me she will go see her friends tonight which i don't mind. As a result, I organise my night to catch up on some work and other things to be done around the house. In the afternoon, she tells me her plan is cancelled and asking me what i will do. I'm being honest and tell her i'll spend the night at home working since i already promised my flatmate my car for the night (knowing i wouldn't need it). From this point, she is pissed off and cold.

 

What's with that ? She mostly always expect me to comply with her plans and as soon as she is free, i should just stop eveything to stay with her ?

 

From this point, what am i supposed to do ? I've done everything all night to try to make her feel ok with nice messages, ect... but na, still cold and of course, when i ask what's wrong, I become the psyko who reads too much into it.

 

Seriously, i don't get it !!!

 

HELP

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In the afternoon, she tells me her plan is cancelled and asking me what i will do. I'm being honest and tell her i'll spend the night at home working since i already promised my flatmate my car for the night (knowing i wouldn't need it). From this point, she is pissed off and cold.

 

Most likely unintentionally, this is a test. She wants to see if you plan your life around her, and the more she thought she had you, the more pissed she is going to be if it doesnt go her way.

 

What's with that ? She mostly always expect me to comply with her plans and as soon as she is free, i should just stop eveything to stay with her ?

 

No, she wants you to be be masculine, and tell her what youre going to do. Trust me, I can tell by this next bit that you = me a couple years a go...

 

I've done everything all night to try to make her feel ok with nice messages, ect... but na, still cold and of course, when i ask what's wrong, I become the psyko who reads too much into it.

 

Women want you to be a nice, honest guy, but they also want you to cop a pair and tell them when theyre being big brats, and dont stand for it. Everything you did (and trust me, I learned the hard way) was counterproductive. Think about it, what are you even apologizing or worrying for? HER plans got cancelled, that doesnt mean your life revolves on what shes doing. You planned to stay home, and made the arrangements to do so; too bad for her, unfortunately.

 

What you need to do is be able to walk away and leave them to their 'upset-ness' if thats how they want to act. Its just like anyone else, when they act like a brat, let them wade in missery themselves until they realize how dumb it is and get over it lol The last thing you want to do is take some responsibility for her being ridiculous, that just gives her the impression that everything is your fault, instead of making her realize how silly it was for her to get pissed and say sorry to YOU.

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Women want you to be a nice, honest guy, but they also want you to cop a pair and tell them when theyre being big brats, and dont stand for it. Everything you did (and trust me, I learned the hard way) was counterproductive. Think about it, what are you even apologizing or worrying for? HER plans got cancelled, that doesnt mean your life revolves on what shes doing. You planned to stay home, and made the arrangements to do so; too bad for her, unfortunately.

 

What you need to do is be able to walk away and leave them to their 'upset-ness' if thats how they want to act. Its just like anyone else, when they act like a brat, let them wade in missery themselves until they realize how dumb it is and get over it lol The last thing you want to do is take some responsibility for her being ridiculous, that just gives her the impression that everything is your fault, instead of making her realize how silly it was for her to get pissed and say sorry to YOU.

 

I totally agree with you and the intend of my messages were not to apologise but simply to keep in touch the way I always do even if i work or do something...nothing exciting or different.

 

My only mistake here was to realise too late she was soaking and asked her if everything was ok which triggered the whole "I'm cool, relax, why would i be pissed off?" from her. Trust me, i've learnt my lessons now ! ;-)

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