disarm_1 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 It's been a months since my gf of 3rs dumped me. here's that story. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t197675/ yesterday was my birthday and she sent me a text wondering if i had any plans. i had none and she said she wanted to take me to dinner. i was a bit hesitant because we had an awkward encounter earlier in the week. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t200038/ i said ended up saying yes. i didn't know what to expect. would we discuss the break up? if not what else would we talk about? is this a horrible idea? i had no clue what i was getting myself in to. i picked her up and we were off to dinner. surprisingly the awkwardness wasn't there. the conversation flowed. we caught up on everything going on with us. about halfway through dinner the break up came up. it honestly felt good to talk about it. i got some stuff off my chest. she got some stuff off her chest. we talked about how we've been dealing with it. our friends who've been there to support us. how are families reacted to the news. it's strange to say but it really did feel good. we continued talking on the way home. there was a bit of crying. not "i want you back!" kind of crying. it was more just something that happened while discussing all the good times and how much we'll miss them. i understand her reasons better now. i let her know that i wasn't holding out hope that she'd want to get back together with me. i myself don't want to get back together. we still miss each other. it's only been a month so naturally we still think about each other all the time. that'll get better with time. we both still love each other. we owe a lot to each other. we each helped the other mature more. we both realize that we had 3 great years but it's time to move on. our relationship felt like we were more best friends than actually boyfriend/girlfriend. we have a lot in common but so do my friends and i and we're not gonna start dating anytime soon. sometimes people just aren't meant to be with each other. i feel like a skipped a lot of steps during this process. i didn't have that phase of feeling totally depressed and crying my eyes out. i do still feel sad. i'm sad when i think about the old days. but i know those are in the past and if we would get back together that it wouldn't be the same. i feel that i'm doing really well though and that i'm on the road to recovery. she'll always have a place in my heart. but i need to move on with my life. i doubt dinner after a month is a good idea for most people. i feel like it benefited me though. i didn't adhere to the NC rule and it's done me good.
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