geo Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 So basically, my girlfriend has a history, but it was different than any other I've seen thus far. Some help would be appreciated. I love this girl way too much to break up with her, and if i did, it would hurt her tremendously. At the beginning of high schooli liked her a lot, but I didn't make a move quick enough and she ended up with another guy. I wasn't too upset about this and blamed myself. He was a good guy at the beginning of the reltionship, she tells me. but then a year or so into it, they had sex. She had always thought she would save herself for marriage, and this guy told her he would marry her. But he basically took her virginity from her. They continued until senior had almost began and he started treating her like crap, but she didn't want to feel dirty, so she clung to him, and continued to have sex with him and gave him blowjobs. She didn't want to lose the guy she lost her virginity with. But finally, it got to be enough and they ended. Then I made my case and we went out once, but I scared her. I said something that closely resembled what her ex said once when he got to being an ******* to her. She said she wasn't ready for a relationship. A few weeks later, she lied herself into dating another guy, and I knew it was bad for her. He treated her ok, but was always pushing the limits she made for herself after her last boyfriend and finally, she caved. To keep things civil, he emotionally and sexually abused her. It was bordering on rape a few times. She entered a depression until I told her that I still had feelings for her. She left him and fell in love with me. I could tell she was hurting, so I asked her if I could help. She told me that she wasn't a virgin. I accepted that. eventually, I gave her my virginity. Then she told me about everything they made her do. How she didn't want to give blowjobs, but she would do it to the second guy almost all he wanted, because he would throw a fit and accuse her of cheating on him, but she didn't want to break up with him because she felt worthless after having been with two guys now. I'm working to heal her pain. When we began having sex, I told her she would never have to do a blowjob again, because she hated it. But recently i've become jealous of the fact that she would give blowjobs to a guy who was hurting her, but never intended on giving me one. I treat her like a princess and would do anything for her. I'll never ask her for it and we've talked about it, but I won't go back on my word. I want to know how it feels. I love her, but when I think of her giving blowjobs to either one of these guys, it gets to the point that I can't operate. But when I see her, I feel incredible. She's healing now with my help, and this relationship is really good for her. but I can't deny my desire to experience what she did with them. Any advice?
AllieMay Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 If she's healing then she would probably move on and give you one sometime in the future, it would be really stupid to ruin your relationship by going out and getting one from somebody else, and probably setting her back a whole lot further, I'm not saying you would but still. Also if your having sex is not getting that a really big deal? Just try giving her more time. Hope that helps:)
JohnP82 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Hmm, tough situation. I understand that you love her so it may be worth it to give her time. Not to make light of your situation, but it reminds me of the movie I Love You Man. I don't want to ruin it but the toast scene is great! Back to your problem, if your needs aren't being met then you need to find someone who will meet them.
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