gypsi Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Okay so this is really lame i know, but for some reason it really upsets me that i didnt hear from mt ex on my birthday? Is she so over me that she completely forgot about me??? Did i f@ck up is bad that she does not even care about texting me? Or is she in love with someone else? Strange coz she was friends with all of previous exes while we were still 2gether and she always knew when their birthdays were...and she would text them!!! This really does my head in...why dont i hear from her????? Plz any advice would be appreciated! Or did she simply just forget my birthday? Did i ever really mean anything to her????
Crow9726 Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Same here...we have had lite contact and I sent her and her children birthday cards. I did hear back from them each and every time. Unfortunately for me, my birthday was a week ago today and I heard nothing...no text...no call...no card...no e-mail...NOTHING!
Taucher Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Maybe it is too soon? Your ex texted her exes, but that is because time has passed (probably). I am sure she hasn't forgotten but she is probably hurting too and does not know what to do for the best. It works both ways. My ex's birthday is coming up VERY soon, and I have no idea whether to text or not. I don't think I will, because she would probably reply and I would HATE to hear from her. But if I texted and she didn't reply, then that would be just as bad. So not texting or sending a card is...easier. It has crossed my mind though that if I DONT say happy birthday to my ex, she might think I have moved on. I kind of want her to think I have moved on but that scares me a little bit. It's a confusing minefield. Try not to over analyse things. Nothing has chnaged and this is unimportant. All I can say is I bet she thought long and hard about whether to contact you or not, and has decided not to. That may be because she has moved on, doesn't want to lead you on, is upset and hurt and would dread hearing from you because it may open up new thoughts or old feelings. Who knows? Try not to second guess because you will probably be wrong. T
Author gypsi Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 thanks for the advice, i have kinda thought long and hard about it because i know what kind of person she is....the only thing i can think of is that she REALLy is so over me and glad that im out of her life! I think she strongly dislikes me now i would even go so far as say she hate's me. This is so hard, i would have texted her on her bday atleast, now i wont anymore. Feels like i hardly know her at all anymore. Not hearing from them on your bday just emphasizes the fact that they are so OVER you even more torture i tell you.
moo Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 My ex told me he didn't think about me on my birthday. That was incredibly hurtful, as he didn't even bother to celebrate my birthday last year either. He was sick on my birthday and then never bothered to even give me a belated card. Before my birthday, he said he was going to take me to Omaha, Nebraska. About 30 days later, he had started a relationship with another woman. Ten days after that....nothing. I spent my birthday alone and I called him crying at 11:25 pm. He said he had gone to the carnival that day and did not even think about my birthday. I can't even describe the pain this jackass has caused me. But it's over now. I never, ever in my whole enter life have to deal with his nonsense never, ever again.
EmperorR Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 They don't forget they just don't want to give you any hope. I never contatcted my ex on her bday why would you when someoe dumps you, your a stranger to them they have already got on with their life
moo Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I believe my ex truly forgot. He has the ability to love someone one minute and the next completely remove them from his mind and heart.
mr heartbroken Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 MY EX split with me. she sent me a card and txt me to say happy birthday and all it did was give me hope. I thought it was crazy that she was still thinking about me. When i read the card it said love and best wishes you say that to people that you know or a good friend. Thing is her mother also gave me a card and a present oh yeah gave me an easter egg also. all these little things are really great but at the end of the day it really didnt help. stop thinking about her start a no contact rule. dont contact her dont give her the time of day. Every time you txt her, phone her you give her a little more power. leave it and walk away. Ask yourself is she really worth it?
hiljen22 Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 My ex and I split in January. Come my birthday in march I don't hear a peep and it hurts a little but I accept it. However it's coming up to his birthday soon and I would like to message him but know I won't get a reply anyway (given that he has been silent anyway since we split). I want to show I care, that I can do it but still hint as to my existance. I hear what's being said that both hearing from and not hearing from him would pain me that little bit more than now but something feels right about it. Please, your thoughts would be wonderful. Slap me round the face if I need it.
mr heartbroken Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 My ex and I split in January. Come my birthday in march I don't hear a peep and it hurts a little but I accept it. However it's coming up to his birthday soon and I would like to message him but know I won't get a reply anyway (given that he has been silent anyway since we split). I want to show I care, that I can do it but still hint as to my existance. I hear what's being said that both hearing from and not hearing from him would pain me that little bit more than now but something feels right about it. Please, your thoughts would be wonderful. Slap me round the face if I need it. its nice to be nice. however you must think about you first. How will it feel if he doesent reply? Why put yourself in that place whare you will question everything again did he get? why wont he reply? it might even be that this person may have someone else and wouldnt like to hear from you. What heppens if he does reply? what happens if you start talking are you ready for that?
hiljen22 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I am perpetually 'nice'- it's probably my downfall in most aspects of my life but true, there has to be a sensible time to cut him out except I don't really want to!!! It's one-sided I'm sure, it has to be otherwise his silence is just proof he's cowardly in love and wasn't meant for someone so open hearted like me! Thank you for taking time out to chat x
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