zaphodb2002 Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 So I'm not normally a shy person. In fact, I'm usually quite the opposite, gregarious, loudmouthed, obnoxious, and wisecracking. Not so much with my girlfriend in regards to relationship issues, and I can't figure out why. Now, I've been with her for 8 months now, known her for a year, so it's not like I'm uncomfortable around her. We talk about everything, from politics to religion to family life to sex (if only in a particularly academic fashion, more on that later.) I'm crazy about her, and have told her so, and she's pretty happy with me, as far as I know. Here's the problem. It took me 3 months to tell her I liked her, and 2 months after that to kiss her. Now I'm having some serious issues because I really, rather desperately want to tell her I love her, because I do, and I think I should, but apparently I'm a Goddamn coward. Also, on this subject, I'd really like to progress the relationship physically, but I find myself holding back where in previous relationships I would have been much more forward. Not that I'm not polite and respectful, but in the past I think I've just been more confident as far as that goes. I think a lot of it comes from my girlfriend's personality. She can be a little intimidating. She's gorgeous, incredibly intelligent, and very strong-willed. She's also not particularly affectionate, as opposed to my hopeless romanticism. We've discussed sex, as I said earlier, but just in the idea that she's not opposed to it, no religious or moral issues, and she's very openminded, but again, it's all very academic. And as far as dropping the "L" bomb, I can foresee that she'd be happy to hear it, but she'd probably never say it first, even if she thinks it occasionally, as I suspect she does. Any advice on how to man up? I'm developing some sort of complex over these issues as of late, lol. I've always considered myself an extremely confident person, sometimes even too cocky for my own good. However, this girl leaves me paralysed and speechless. It's nice, because I know it means I like her quite a bit, but it's getting a little old, and I'd like to not miss my chance.
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