AJsHere Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 So this is the girl I talked about before. I really like this girl, and wanted to ask her about last week, but work travel kind of put that on hold. However, we have chatted online a few times, initiated by both of us. I also had a tough issue last week with my fam, and she texted me while I was on business to see how I was doing, if I was any better. Anyway, we were chatting online last night (she IM'd me) and I asked about her weekend. She said she went out on Sat night, and said had an awkward situation. She said one of her friends was trying to set her up with this guy. She then said the guy was a douche and started to dance by himself and that she was completely turned off by it, and said she's never gonna be talking to him. My question is, why did she tell me that? Is it because I'm in the friend zone and she confided in me? Is because she's telling me she's single and open to relationship? Girls and Guys, what's your take from your perspectives?
Lusitan Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 She's telling you that because she's trying to make you jealous . I don't go around telling someone I knocked my foot against the wall, it's unpleasant, sure but I don't see the relevance I'm thinking she's interested in you - hence mentioning that guy to get a rise out of you - but, she's waiting for you to make a move. Ask her out. Get some popcorn with her and sit at a garden bench
GorillaTheater Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 When I saw the thread title, I thought "yep, dude's been friendzoned", but reading your post didn't give me that impression. She's not telling you about some guy she's interested in, she told you about a small disaster and is basically telling you to make a move and show her you can do better.
Author AJsHere Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 Yeah, I've pretty much decided I'm gonna ask her out this week. I just wanted to make sure there weren't signals/signs I was missing when she was told me that stuff
letinmotion Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 I hardly think she is trying to make this guy jealous you are in good shape my friend! If you have talked with this girl quite a bit its probably true that you have also created a decent amount of rapport with this girl. Thus, she is comfortable telling you things. You will lose and I repeat you will lose this girl if you make a big deal out of her interactions with other guys. You are not dating and even if you were who cares. You are the catch. You are the one she wants to be with. Keep that mindset and you will do well. Cheers mate.
Author AJsHere Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 Thanks for boost! I'm going to ask her out this Wednesday after I meet up with her for another thing.
tomtom26 Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 You should just ask her out! One way or another, for the sake of your sanity, you'll know soon if she likes you or not. I would imagine that either way you'd want to know. You will either start dating or you will forget about seeing her as GF-material and move on. My hunch is that she likes you, at least enough to give you a first date. Just ask and see where it goes. Good luck!
Author AJsHere Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Alright guys, I know I may be overthinking this, but I need some help about what do propose us do on our date. I've asked her before to go some museum event I wanted to but she was busy with her family, and I don't think she knows if I fully like her or not. I'm totally set on asking her out and just seeing what happens, but what do I suggest to make it clear that this is a romantic gesture as opposed to a friendly one? Another day event plus lunch? Dinner? Any suggestions
Cowboy2theCore Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 just to help you out man. do you know what she likes to do? well either you could do what you know she likes that way you and her can focus more on talking or you can just do something random. Don't let her know. I am not sure where you live or what all you have around your area, but take her out to eat and just do something random after dinner. What state are you located in? What type of girl is she? What does she like to do? If you answer those questions then it would be easier to help you out. take care.
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