Eclypse Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Last weekend I was working and I met a girl. We were umpiring and today was finals so her association sent her to this place, and mine sent me there as well, so as not to be biased by having 2 umpires from the same association etc etc. Well the point I'm getting at is I met her and I likely would never ever see her again under normal circumstances. She was very attractive and (in my opinion) a bit flirtatious toward me. We teased each other, had some good laughs and so forth. I thoroughly enjoyed her company and she seemed to mine, even waiting after she had finished collecting her pay for me so we could walk out together. Never ever has another umpire waited for me. So I made it a point to note her name and added her on facebook later on. We are now "friends" I guess. I also noted that she was single. I really would like to get to know this girl better, she seems to really have potential as someone I would like to date. My problem now lies in what to do next. Everyone always says "you gotta show em your interested fast or you get friend zoned." I agree with this as most of my previous ventures have ended badly because of the cursed "friend zone." So I did my best to be flirtatious when we met and in the subsequent online convos. I am not sure how many girls would react to being asked out on a date by a guy they have only met once. My facebook profile and pictures and other friends comments prove that I'm a safe guy (hopefully) but one can never be sure. One thing I definetly wouldn't like to do would be to creep her out. So I guess I'm mainly looking for a girls perspective on how they might react, or just any advice in general would be good. P.S: I am aware of the cliched'ness of asking out via IM, however this is pretty much all I would have to go on.
New Again Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 One of my biggest dating pet peeves is getting asked out via IM, Facebook message, etc. IT IS JUST TERRIBLE. If you're interested in her, you should've gotten her phone number and called her, rather than setting the standard at online flirtations Get her number now and call her and ask her out. The only reason IM is your "only" means of contacting her is because it's how you chose to contact her initially, and then never bothered to take it further. So all you have to do to be able to ask her some other way is to ask her for her number. Anyways, this is just my very strong opinion/bias against the whole online nonesense. I'm sure many people wouldn't mind. Good luck!
Author Eclypse Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Mmm I am aware this is not the best case scenario. I don't know why I didn't get her number at the end. I was busy in a rush, and sort of whisked away by my friend to his car. Gah I know those are weak excuses. While obviously I never have to see her again if it doesn't work out... however I would like to obviously maximise my chances as much as possible. I'm thinking I should ask her for her number so we can contact each other more. Don't want to wait too long though, or else the dreaded friend zone will start rearing its ugly head. Another part of me also thinks if she does like me it wouldn't matter how I do the asking, but of course one can never be certain. I just don't want to look like a douchebag.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Which just goes to show that everybody is going to have a different opinion. I met a guy from a meet-up site. It wasn't even a dating site. He emailed me based on my pics and interests and got to know me more. We emailed a ton and he asked me out on a date. He's the guy I most recently ended things with for unrelated reasons. But quite honestly, he's got to be one of the best guys I've ever dated. And it all started online. So I don't personally have a bias. But I would agree with NewAgain that you should just go ahead and get the girl's phone number. I smacked myself in the forehead when I read the part about you looking her up on FB and adding her. D'oh. Just get her number. I don't personally have a problem with being asked out online, but some people do.
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