Whiskey Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Your ex WILL most likely contact you in some form or another. Unbelievable, I haven't spoken with her in almost a month okay? She just kind of left with no real clear explaination. Just cold and distant and acted like she doesn't know me. I took it really hard at first a made few posts and replies on this forum and it really helped me through this all. Oh god and this is what makes it just awful. I'm 25 years old and I met an unbelievably hot 42 year old woman and just absolutely, to put it in the best phrase, had an incredible time together tonight. Now this isn't anything serious, I would consider it a fling, but when I just got home tonight I saw this message in my myspace inbox from my ex. "Hi X, its me...i just wanted to say hi and see what you were up to. i know its long overdue, but i'm sorry for everything. when i stopped talking to you, i was really depressed and had suicidal thoughts, but i'm finally on medication now. i'm sure that you are already over me, but i'm not over you which is why it's been hard for me to contact you in order to give you back your things. I do have ringo's water bowl and your jacket and dog tags. let me know when you want me to bring them by. i would love to see you and ringo, but if you would rather arrange it so you don't have to see me i understand. sorry again. - Y" I saw this and I immediately thought of Nightlords post about literally needing a new mindset and how they can pick up brainwave patterns and when you've really moved on, that is when they come back to you. I'm angry at the same time though because it was like 2 months where she completely ignored me and pretended like I didn't exist. If she was having problems why couldn't she just have come to me!? I don't get this retarded message. 1/3 of me wants to say F you. Another 1/3 wants to say, what the F were you thinking, that is not a F'ing excuse. The Final 1/3 wants to take her back, but its not the same. Anyway, I would love to hear everyone's thoughts or advice on this...Dammit, right as soon as I get in the action on the supermilf this crap has to happen. Life is unfair. Oh and my advice to everyone who is just completely bummed about their ex dumping them. NC, and go find someone else, it may seriously help. You can't be happy unless you let yourself be.
hopefullove Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 i think its true. every time i am prepared to move on, my ex comes back... one way or another... like if another man texts me, and i havent heard from my ex in weeks, i will hear from him on that same night... it's happened a few times... and i think its really weird!!! which is why one time i agreed to go out on a date with a guy, just to see if my ex would contact me. lol. but that didnt happen. But yeah, 2 months ago, i finally decided, that after a year, i needed to move on... and thats when he decided to contact me and we have been chatting for a month staright.... but now he's gone and disappeared on me again.... so i guess its best for me to move on again, maybe he'll come back. this is a bad cycle eh.
dianna Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 well im trying to move on now, i actually feel good ..hope he doesn't contact me ..i don't want to go "back there" again
TaraMaiden Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Thoughts and advice? Come on, you know really... Ignore her, delete, focus on the hot time you've just had. She's just stirring your pot and clouding the water.... She's thrown you a line, with a rusty hook, and she's trying to nab you - a part of you - any part of you - just to appease her own guilt. NOW she apologises? After all she's done? Gimme a break...! All the excuses about needing medication? could have been done earlier. do you need the stuff she's got? Ringo's stuff, you probably replaced. have you missed the jacket and dog tags? send a buddy round to pick them up. Don't tell her you're doing this. Just ask a friend to call round her place one evening, and tell her - '*whiskey* sent me round to collect <stuff you want>.' if you've lived without it this long though - you can live without it for good. So the bottom line is - Make like she never contacted you. Get on with your life, and have fun.
Author Whiskey Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 Word. I really just wanted to share my experience with other people because when I was feeling really down and depressed it helped me to read what other people were going through that were at same stage of the game or a little further ahead of me. I didn't respond to her message nor do I have any desire to. Its like everything I read here. If she was even halfway serious, she could have at LEAST given me a phone call. 3 yrs of our lives and I get a myspace message!? When I read posts about these seconds chances other people get, I wished so badly it was me. Now I don't even care. No contact is a godsend. Don't do anything drastic because you will regret it. Just try your best to take it in stride.
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