Sistine Chapel Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Well hello there everyone, I need your help. But before I get into that I feel like I should describe myself. I warn you, my story is not a short one. I'm a 21 year old, 165 lb, athletic man looking to get his feet wet. I'm quick and witty, I can talk easily to girls, and I've been told I'm both "hot" and "cute." Ok so there's tons of facts about me, so I figure I'll list them instead of writing a 100 page novel. -never had contacts or glasses till I was 19, boy talk about trying to read signals from across the room (probably the source of most of my problems) -moved around a TON when I was young, making and breaking friendships, eventually wore on me personally, making it tough for me to commit to relationships. -could have, but never had a formal one on one date -could of had sex on multiple occasions(literally going as far as you can go without penetration), but couldn't commit because I felt it wouldn't of meant anything at the time. (I do want to lose it to someone who means a lot to me, not a acquaintance, second guessing if I should just do it all the time). -hopelessly fell in love with a girl who strung me along from when I was 12 to when I was 18, so that, to be blunt, f**ked over my highschool life a lot. -but to be honest, the whole not having glasses thing was a huge mistake on my part because it's hard to look into any girls eyes from across the room and send a signal when you can't even make out their face. (i've corrected that and gotten contacts, which opened up a ton of doors for me). back into story mode because I'm kinda writing a story in fact-o mode. Now that I can see and I'm working in a social enviroment, I have a ton of girls I'm hitting it off with. It's all confusing really, being the quiet one in high school (problem with the whole glasses thing compunded with insecurities about commitment from moving), and now being able to comfortably be smooth with the ladies. Apparentally quite a few of my co-workers want to get down and dirty, but a couple of them have boyfirends, and even random girls I meet at the beach tend to only want one thing. I'm so lost in a world that seems to be spinning out of proportion. It's like sitting there trying to cut a tomato with a stick and someone comes over and hands you a knife, except it's so easy you don't know what to do with all the tomatoes your cutting up becuase you where used to cutting them with a stick. ok thats a freaking stupid ass analogy, but, we'll run with it. Now I'm pretty set talking to the ladies and whatnot, but when it comes to asking a girl out, I guess I'm confused, not because I don't know what to do, but not only do they assume I'm not a virgin, they assume I've been on many dates, because honestly if you came across me you'd think I was experianced. (mind you I have satisfied a few girls in my days, without my member). Not that that matters, but my problem lies where I want the whole "I don't really know what I'm doing feeling, but I'm here and I want to do it" and I don't think I can have that with a girl that assumes I'm more experienced then I am, but I don't think I should be going around with a "no experience" stamp on my forehead either. I'm pretty sure I can ask a girl out, and get her to come with me, but do I tell her about my past? or do I just roll with it bottled up inside of me? It's hard to explain my situation really, but I guess that's a start. If you can offer some hearty advice, please, do so.
Author Sistine Chapel Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 I don't believe it myself. nor would anyone else that looks at my life. But I'm the guy who's living it, so it's hard for me not to believe it. If you know what I mean.
Lyssa Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 You don't seem to have a problem with the ladies, only that you haven't actually gone out exclusively with one. Ask a girl out on a date, be yourself and enjoy it. You don't have to tell her a long story of how you've never dated etc. Give it a try and see how it goes.
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