sportygirl84 Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 All I have seen on this section is negative responses if a girl will ask what do I do now that he (the bf) has cheated on me, which are normally: its not worth it, it won't work out, he's a tool, ect. So to the contrast of that, I was wondering if anyone has cheated on their girlfriend, worked things out, put all of it behind you, and never cheated again with a having a new great loving relationship?
Thaddeus Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 I've never cheated so I can't speak from personal experience. But I know two couples who repaired things after an indiscretion. First couple: Both in their 40s. She cheated, on and off, with another man for years. Her husband finally grew a spine, moved out and started divorce proceedings. She immediately ended the affair and begged - literally - to take her back and keep the family together (they have 2 teenage kids, a boy and a girl). He relented and went back. The relationship between them is rocky. He's reverted to what he was like before he found out about the affair; his spine has turned to jelly again. She's got 100% of the power in the relationship. I don't think she's cheating again, but I don't know for sure. Second couple: In their late 50s. He cheated with someone half his age for about a year. After discovery, they went to marriage counselling together. It's now over 10 years later and things seem to be going pretty well. I'm not privy to all the details of both sets of relationships, so there may be huge holes in the stories that I can't fill in. But the point is that an affair does not necessarily spell the end of the relationship. Trust might take a long time to be re-established, but IMO it can happen if both parties are willing to work together on it.
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