Miguelrg Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Hey Guys and Girls, So here i am 6 1/2 months post break up, 15 weeks NC all was going so sweetly until this past week, my ex has been on my mind, i still love her and the dreams are coming back? Is it normal after a while when you kind of realise NC won't make them contact you that you have a re-lapse? Have any of you had this kind of thing happen? i mean i'm not in the same place i was months ago but she's just back on my mind all the time
callingyouuu Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 It's unfortunate, but yes. It happens to the best of us. They just find a way to weasel back into our lives. Heck, sometimes we even find excuses to let them back in. The only thing I can say is that it gets easier each time. Your profile says you're from Liverpool. Nice win yesterday against Bolton.
BW007 Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 YES. Once "FOREVER'' pops into your head it is really easy to miss the hell out of them
Meaplus3 Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Of course that is normal. I went through the same exact thing. Now, you have done a great job of keeping up with NC for 15 weeks.. really that is such a wonderful step in the right direction. I say feel those feeling, let them out and explore them a bit. Even write them down if you must. But do stick with NC, because it will keep you moving ahead. Healing takes time.. you will get there. Best wishes. Mea:)
gypsi Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Im in the exact same situation as you, also 6 and a half months post break up and no contact for 7 weeks! I am starting to miss her so much again i think because now i finally realize she is gone forever...i dont have a clue where she is what she's up to, if she's happy or anything, i know its so hard, i dont even know if i will ever hear from her again my birthday is in 2 days apart of me really wishes she would text me, but i have a feeling she wont. Goodluck man
Taucher Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Hey Guys and Girls, So here i am 6 1/2 months post break up, 15 weeks NC all was going so sweetly until this past week, my ex has been on my mind, i still love her and the dreams are coming back? Is it normal after a while when you kind of realise NC won't make them contact you that you have a re-lapse? Have any of you had this kind of thing happen? i mean i'm not in the same place i was months ago but she's just back on my mind all the time I think you would be weird not to have some kind of relapse at some point, if they really meant something to you. I am going through the same thing. 3 months after the end of a 5 years relationship. Sometimes you feel better because you are moving on and thinking about them less and not being so aware of when you are thinking about them. And suddenly, you consciously think about them and it all comes back. Or a dream can trigger off thoughts, if you dream about them. Soon, you will think about her hardly at all. Hopefully. Your profile says you're from Liverpool. Nice win yesterday against Bolton. Yes. And if you are from the blue half of the 'pool, good result just now against Wigan. T
Author Miguelrg Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 haha thankfully i'm the red half of liverpool but living in london atm. I think i had a relapse because basically my ex broke up with me a week after we went back to australia ( she's australian) and couple of weeks ago her cousins ( who looked after me till i flew home in feb) flew over here and it's the first time i've spoke about it to anyone besides people off love shack for months. I guess 15 weeks is pretty but but when i told someone about it last week he said ' yeah but your still counting' i guess when you lose track you really don't care I guess what most of us want is just an apology of some sort, most of us will never get it!
fabulous_chk Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Very normal, Miguel. I'm almost on my 6 month mark, and yesterday and today I find myself mumbling I love you ________ over and over and over and I'm like, WTF? I'm dating a new guy that I really like and here I am muttering my ex's name? LOL! It's kind of an empty feeling though. I don't love him anymore, well, not the way I used to which was all-consuming. Right now I kind of care for him in a detached way. I changed myself so greatly that to be the kind of girl I was when I was with him was hard to remember....like all this heartbreak happened to someone else, not me. But I believe emotional triggers do bring this kind of relapse. Yesterday both my ex's mom and brother called me to discuss my ex and so I blame that for me thinking that I still do love him, when I really don't. Loving him became kind of a habit for me, so sometimes I fall into thinking that I still feel the same way. Keep NC if that helps. I haven't kept NC with my ex because I heal much better if I keep contact. I see his faults continually. NC made him almost god-like to me.
NopeNah Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 when i told someone about it last week he said ' yeah but your still counting' i guess when you lose track you really don't care That's a VERY true statement! Once you don't even know/care when the last contact was you're over them for the most part. I think I counted to 14days and was done putting any thought into her anymore. It's a waste of your time and energy that "they" don't deserve anymore.
Author Miguelrg Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Another weird thing which has triggered it is, her sister came to london, emailed me or whatever months ago and when i still had my ex's email password i saw a conversation between them Ex's sister: miguel wants to meet up, shall i or is he being a n*b Ex: I wouldn't he'll prob jus talk sh*t and he's a boring person not a party animal like us from then her sister jus ignored me and i was wtf, i didnt break up with my ex, i was lovely to her family and i'm far from a boring person anyhows her sister added me on FB yesterday i was like wtf, should i just ignore her is or that childish?
NopeNah Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I'd ignore.. I mean "you'll probaly just talk sh*t and you're not a party animal"...haha! Up to you but, I wouldn't want to add her myself..You got to let it ALL go! Even their family to heal and move on. There are sure to be pics of your ex on her FB and that's almost as bad as being your ex's friend and seeing her pics.
Author Miguelrg Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 i will ignore all from now on! thanks xx
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