worldoflove Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Now there has been a long time for me to feel the depression because of this relationship. I have been with this guy for 6 years from when I was in my late 20s to when I am a middle-aged woman. Last year he started up a new business and still wouldn't talk about marriage. I mustered up my strength and asked for it, so we agreed on a date for marriage which is to come soon in about 2 months' time. The thing is he has never introduced me to his families nor friends. There was once when I met one of his friends while they were talking, he introduced to his friend where I was working rather than saying that we were in a steady relationship. So basically no one in his social circle knows about me but everyone in my social circle knows about him. When I mentioned what to do on our big day, he said he would not like to talk about it for I was simply adding on to his pressure. Last month a woman phoned him after 11pm asking if he felt better and he should go to bed earlier (he wasn't well that day). Then several days later I found the text message on his mobile from the same woman asking if he has already had his meal and he should have his dinner soon. Now I don't want to be paranoid, but do you guys think all this is normal or am I simply being over-suspicious? His explanation is that they only have working relationship. But to me, phoning a person of opposite sex in the middle of the night and text the person asking if he has had his mean implies personal closeness. What do you think? P.S. My man and I never have dinner together, his explanation is that he is too busy for work. We only have lunch together most of the times, and he comes home very late often (usually past 11pm). He is in wine selling business. All in all, do you guys think that this relationship is heading somewhere?
pixiecat Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Let me just tell you, 6 years is a LOOOONG time to not be introduced to his friends/family as his girlfriend and more than a co-worker or friend. THAT is the first flag. The next one is the mysterious woman who calls and texts at all hours asking him about his MEALS?! Unless he's sick and it's his MOTHER, i'd be for tracking her down myself if he's too wishy-washy with his answers! I would NOT marry him until you get some concrete answers and information, and until you are properly introduced to most or all of his friends and family as his significant other. And if he can't meet those standards, he's a significant jackass and you need to dump him.
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